I love you but I'm just not in love with you...
By drsparkle314
@drsparkle314 (529)
New Zealand
June 16, 2008 6:39am CST
Most people would initially react to this statement with: "What the?!" or "What's the difference?!" but based from experience it's in fact two different things...
Anyway this is how me and my ex started... and when people asked us if we were together or why we are not... this was our primary defense... and at first it was true... actually for 1 1/2 years it was true... but I did win her heart at some point... unfortunately happy days were over sooner than expected... so I guess we still ended with such phrase...
How about you do you believe it is in fact two different things? Have you ever experienced the same thing? Share your views or story...
4 responses
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I defeniatly think it can be two different feelings.
Loving someone can mean that you care for them, you see them as your friend/family, and you still want to be around them. But you just do not have those kind of feelings towards them.
Being in love with someone means that you want a relationship future with them; you want a house, you wants kids, you want to wake up every morning and see them.
Loving someone and being IN love with someone can be different.
@agfarm (930)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I agree Lily.......it can also be exhilorating....with all o' the possibilities!
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Yeah defeniatly a lot of possibilities agfarm! :)
And yeah it can hurt but, it's better knowing the truth before you get too involved.
@kapupam (10)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
whew! well, here it goes..
i think ' i love you is a mutual feeling..i mean, you love not just your girl/guy but everyone else around you, right? but when you say, im in live with you..well i think its like saying 'im ready...ready to spend the rest of my life with you..
@subha12 (18441)
• India
16 Jun 08
i was also amazed after reading this. after totally reading yoyr post, i think its quite clear. there is thin line of difference between these two. what can be the case now? you are loving th person but not in love. I have no such exp. what is the situation now?
@drsparkle314 (529)
• New Zealand
16 Jun 08
well I love her and I'm in love with her... but she's the one who loves me but is not or I prefer to say no longer in love with me...
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
Well, in my case, its reverse. I'm not in love with you but I love you... Why? Base on my experience, I am not in love with him for the first time but after we got married and have kids, i am now in love with him.
