In-laws - would u stand up to them?

Yes. My man is very much a pacifist. He's a great guy and deserves a lot more respect than he gets. If his parents were bad mouthing him, I'd definitely stand up for him. They should respect his decisions, and feel proud of his accomplishments, not ridicule him. It's hard to be motivated to do better in life if people constantly bring you down.

yes i would because that is the person i am spending the rest of my life with i dont want them to be taken advantage of at all and i would let them know how it made me feel andhow it makes my spouse feel. thats not right and they would know it.

I don't know if I would necessarily stand up to them, but I would make sure that my spouse was not making any decision with them without me around.

Dam right I'd stand up for him. I don't care if they are his parents. No one disrespects my husband, and no one disrespects either. No one disrespects us as individuals, or as a couple. Neither of us will stand for it!!!

I think it would depend on a few different things but the most important one being how my spouse felt about it...more often than not particularly if is the male, they dont want their wives to get involved becuase it could create more troubles...I know that J isn't passive and its not his mum that the issues are with but how some of his siblings TREAT his mum (which is like crap)BUT he also doesnt like to blast some of his siblings because he doesnt want to upset his mother which means he wont let me let loose on them either (something that just infuriates me because I ADORE that woman and I hate to see wht they do to her ya know.).....Regardless of who the ahole is in the in law family I would make sure my partner is okay with me flipping out first before making a move..

I would have to look at the circumstances....and discuss it with my spouse...this would after all be his relatives....however, that in no way means that I would be happy about it and knowing me...I would want to be VERY vocal... I do feel that even if my spouse is passive....he/she would have an opinion...and I would want to know what that was.... I would expect them to stand up for me in that inference...and if it was my relatives...oh yes, in a minute they would be told to "watch it".... At the same time, I would never tolerate my children being disrespected or made to feel bad for being who they are by another...no matter the relative! I guess for me, the first thing would be my spouse's response...and then if I needed to I would most definately "let them know, how the cow ate the cabbage!" LOL I have had to tell my son's in-laws the he was not their personal "maintenace man", "plumber" and "yard boy"....and after that, well...let's just say that I was not their favorite person....but no one deserves to be miss treated and taken advantage of! Tina

Oh heck yeah, I would! I know it is much more easier said than done, but yeah, I wouldn't let anyone take advantage of my hubby---actually the kids try all the time to take advantage of his generosity and need to be put back into their places some times. . Stand up. Be firm, but kind. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Hi mare, I will talk to my in laws why they are treating my partner that way. And after that if there will be no positive result, I guess I will just avoid visiting them or meeting them regularly until they will realize it!