Which is more attractive, the body or the personality?

South Africa
June 16, 2008 2:14pm CST
I'm doing a biology project right now on what makes people attractive and so I have been asking around about people's preferences. Asking a few people helps to get ideas but now I want to get the general idea of which one most people find to be more important. Of course just because the one is more important doesn't mean that the other one can't overwhelm the decision sometimes but which one is more attractive in general? Please state which gender you are referring to as well. For example, I find that a good personality is more important than physical beauty in a woman. Thanks in advance.
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Shelley121
@Shelley121 (217)
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16 Jun 08
I am a female, I always used to go for physical apperance in a man however I soon learnt that looks are not what the person is really like and found that finding out about someone through personality was the true to test to a attraction. Looks are not everything as someone needs to have a good heart first, I hope your project goes well
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Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
Thanks. You may have just added an entire paragraph to the conclusion of my project. I wonder if many other people start out by going after physical beauty primarily and then later on deciding to focus more on personality...
Shelley121
@Shelley121 (217)
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16 Jun 08
I am glad I could help. I think when you are young you would not want to be seen with someone who is ugly as there is alot of per pressure, however the older you get the more you know that there is more to a person.
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
17 Jun 08
Peer pressure really is an ugly thing. Especially because of how much nicer it is to sit with someone if they have a good personality. Why some parts of society feel the need to shun ugly people is beyond me since the the people they are shunning are worth so much more than they are.
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
17 Jun 08
hi.. i feel that a good personality is much better that a good body... he may look like a greek god, but if he likes to say foul languages and bring people down when they are tryinh to do their best is not the kind of guy i will like to date. i have made a mistake before when i was rather good friends with that kind of girl, and i really dislike her, even if we hang out all the time... my class's studies are not very good, and when my teacher said that we must say what we want to be in life, she shoot down someone who wants to be a lawyer. i also have a ex classmate who is rather handsome but he speaks more foul words more than nouns... yup... thats how bad it is... so this is why i think that having a guy with a good personility is better than having one who look really good... because i have been through both...
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
17 Jun 08
My thought exactly. It doesn't matter how pretty someone is, if they have an unpleasant personality it makes them unpleasant to be around. And if it is unpleasant to be around someone, they are repulsive rather than attractive. I don't get it, what's wrong with wanting to be a lawyer? I mean, there are enough lawyer jokes but I think you can find that about any profession. And a decently sized vocabulary is important. If one needs to rely on one or two bad words, chances are their vocabulary isn't particularly large.
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
17 Jun 08
Ah, so she's trying to drag other people down because she wants to feel better about herself. I know people like that. I don't like people like that but there isn't much you can do about it. Except for not associate with them and be better than them in general just to piss them off because it is fun of course.
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
17 Jun 08
well... the thing is that my class is not really that good in their studies... in our school, we are being rated as express, normal acadamic and normal technical... express being the better one... and so our class has rather low expectations in their career.... so i guess that she just dont want anyone she knows to be so much better than her...
agfarm
@agfarm (930)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Well here's the Dilemma....I actually Married my Husband for his Georgeous Body , But at the same time , this man is a Genius.....so......you've got me. I guess I just hit the Lottery with my lover & best Friend! Rogue 1 !
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
Congratulations, sounds like you hit the jackpot. Guess that just makes you lucky though. I'm sure that there are lots of women that married for the gorgeous body aspect and ended in a failed marriage because good looks tend to fade with age. It especially causes problems if there ends up being an abusive personality involved. Hopefully you won't have that problem ever. Thanks for the reply.
ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I think everyone has their priorities but I prefer a good person to a rich, handsome guy!
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
I'm taking that as one for good personality. Thanks for the quick reply.
Henjin
@Henjin (81)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
I like women and the most important thing is personality. I'm a very mental personal, I think, I analyse etc and for me it's important to be able to connect with someone mentally. Someone who can make me think or laugh can easily distract me from physical flaws, but someone has to be very hot to distract me from mental flaws.
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
I'm the same way. Things can start on a physical level but if there isn't a mental connection then it will not last long. Physical faults are easy to overlook if you are in love with a person but I find a lack of a personality that I can relate to very offputting, even if the girl is really beautiful since once I get to know her she becomes less beautiful.
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
So a physical connection is only important if it is a purely physical relationship. If the relationship is to have any real depth, there needs to be a mental connection so that it is not all silent and awkward.
Henjin
@Henjin (81)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
That just made me think of something: A physical connection is great, but the conversations are useless when there's no mental connection and leads to far too many uncomfortable silences.
jersey86
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
yeah, cause as time goes physical beauty vanish and fade but good personality will remain good . =)
Pirate_Arg
@Pirate_Arg (472)
• South Africa
16 Jun 08
While it is true that a personality is likely to last longer than physical beauty it does not last forever. Sometimes, especially with age, certain brain conditions can cause a person to change. Sometimes something will happen that changes a person... But in general I agree with what you mean. Thanks for the reply.