Sleepless!

i would definately start looking also. then remind him why. i've been married 5 times so know how to handle these guys.

This is indeed bothering. We can say that your husband can't help looking at more attractive women when they're around but, its no excuse to have your wife feel bad about it. Perhaps he can do that while your not around to feel bad? Man, that's still unreasonable. Blame you for ruining what? If he can't help looking at other women while your around, you can't help it as well to feel bad when he does that. He must at least know that you feel bad at things he does and try to compromise. The next time he does that, you'd better give him the silent treatment, or a slight one if you want to by giving him one word responses. That way, your not really inciting conflict between you two. He should at least be sensitive enough to realize why your treating him that way and if not, he'll have a hard time figuring it out. Well, that's just me thinking out loud. If you want to react the third time he does that, do so. He might as well hear your side if he's completely oblivious to what your going through.

Well in my case me and my wife are open to such for as long as we share what we see and appreciate. What happens is that whenever I see beautiful women around I usually tell her that I admire the beauty of that and she in returns give comments about her. Its really not an issue with us same with her is she sees any good looking guys she tells me and I give comments or critic to the guy she admires. That's all and after that we enjoy each others company and no distractions whatsoever. I do not know in your situation but that's just how it is on my side of the story.

It's really very comman for all of us but it also very difficult to accept this fact.I think you shouldn't think too much of it.

If my husband did this it would bother me. I would explain to him how it hurts you. If he is still a jerk about it, I would get start looking at gorgeous young men. See how it makes him measure up.

As a terrible flirt myself, I probably wouldn't let it bother me. The important thing to remember is that he is flirting and nothing more. Now, if he gets up from the table and follows those other women, then, *WHAM* let him have it. The other thing that is wrong here is your statement that those others are far more beautiful than you. I'm sure your husband would disagree with that statement. Maybe there is something about them that naturally grabs his attention? I know that I have always been a head turner if a woman walks by me in high heels and it doesn't matter who I'm sitting with. Next time he does something like this, ask him in a very friendly conversational way, what about them made his head turn.

sorry about your situation. i guess i would be pretty upset if my hubby did the same thing as yours. i am very fortunate that my hubby is quite loyal to me (no, he is not a dog...) but we are quite in love with each other and very happy..

in my case me and my partner are very open with regards to that..whenever he sees other woman we compliment her just as it is..it never bothered me..as for you, i think thats normal of what you feel..but i guess insecurities shows on your end part..i think you are beautiful and that your husband sees you that way too because he will not marry you if he doesn't sees how wonderful you are..if its doesn't push to its limit i guess there's nothing to worry about..tell yourself that your beautiful and always will far more than anybody else..try it..because you are and will always be..

i am a guy and i don't think that he should be looking at other women like that i mean i have never done that...and honestly i don't think i would like it if my girlfriend done it whenever we were out together...and i know that i have heard before from guys that you can look as long as you dont touch but i would think that it would be disrespectful to the person that you are with and your girlfriend/boyfriend even if they aren't with you...but i mean i guess that everyone has their opinion on the subject and situation that is just how i feel because that is how i was raised that you should respect the person you are with...but maybe you can just mention to him that it makes you feel bad or something like that whenever you two are out and and that you wished that he wouldn't do it..and then maybe he will stop because he knows then that you notice it and that you don't like it at all...

Dear Misty, it annoys me to no end. In the very beginning, I'd put up with it. Until one day, I told him about it; he stopped for a while and then went back to it again. So what I do now, is step right in front of him and ask him 'Have you seen enough?' Or is he doing this to provoke you, get a reaction out of you? Some men do - in that case, ignore him totally, and when he finds that you're indifferent to his 'childish pranks' or whatever, they'll give up doing it.

give me the dose og his own medicine. simple as that. date someone, flirt someone, if he gets jealous then your on the right track. sooner or later he will realize that what you are doing is what he is doing... chill