need to find him some motivation
By surveygrrl
@surveygrrl (1270)
United States
June 17, 2008 8:35am CST
My husband used to be going a lot. Things always got done. He enjoyed doing a lot of things..different things. Now he talks about all the thing he wants to do and what would be neat or fun but nothing at all seems to get done besides cutting the grass.
Sometimes I can start things then h normally comes along behind me and finishes but some things I just cannot start or do myself. I just don't have the skills.
What do you do to get your husband motivated?
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@surveygrrl (1270)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Lol, I don't normally scream but feel like I am begging sometimes.
What gets me is he will go to do something and do something completely else and pointless. Like instead of working on the car in the garage he will sit and reorganize bolts. I guess I should be happy that he is doing something ;)
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Is it possible that your husband is stressed or depressed? My husband has a problem with depression and, when he's down, he has no energy or motivation to do anything. Do you and your husband do anything for fun or has that stopped, too? If it's just a lack of motivation maybe having a Honey Do list hanging on the frig will help to motivate him. I keep one for myself because I have so many different things that I have to do these days and it's pretty satisfying to be able to cross things off of the list.
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@surveygrrl (1270)
• United States
22 Jun 08
I think his mind is just somwhere else. Not really depressed or stressed but a lot going on.
He seems like he is trying to get a list of things that need to be done himself (which is a big help).
I think he might just be tired of doing all the same things because he told me last night he has a new interest.
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@dfollin (25381)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I don't know how to help you here.Sorry. My husband is now deceased
.But,he was one of those people who got up extra early in the morning and cleaned out his work truck and went to work.His boss told me that he was always the first one there waiting for the shop to open.He would go in there and get and restock his truck.He worked hard all day.Then he would come home and 3 out of 7 days a week he would cook dinner because he wanted to and insist on doing the dishes.On the weekend's,if he wasn't working or doing a side job then all of the sudden I'd hear the vacuum cleaner or walk in the bathroom and see him scrubbing it and I would never even have to ask him.He would say he was bored and want to do it.That's when our daughter was taking a nap.When she was awake he would be playing with her.
This went on till he got cancer and then he could not work anymore.
.But,he was one of those people who got up extra early in the morning and cleaned out his work truck and went to work.His boss told me that he was always the first one there waiting for the shop to open.He would go in there and get and restock his truck.He worked hard all day.Then he would come home and 3 out of 7 days a week he would cook dinner because he wanted to and insist on doing the dishes.On the weekend's,if he wasn't working or doing a side job then all of the sudden I'd hear the vacuum cleaner or walk in the bathroom and see him scrubbing it and I would never even have to ask him.He would say he was bored and want to do it.That's when our daughter was taking a nap.When she was awake he would be playing with her.This went on till he got cancer and then he could not work anymore.@surveygrrl (1270)
• United States
22 Jun 08
I am sorry about your husband.
My Dad was the same way. Always doing something and still is.
