Memories: Does it make you bitter or better?

New Zealand
June 17, 2008 10:07am CST
How many of you would say it makes you bitter? How many would say otherwise? Why? I would very much appreciate to hear what you have to say about this... Share your views, stories or comment... anyway, here goes mine... Memories... hmm... memories can be both happy and painful at the same time... sometimes it's the only strand that makes you hold on... and sometimes it's the only strand that would bind you to the past for so long that you'll lose a lot of time without being able to move on... and yet for some people it can help them move on... For the past years of my life... ever since I understood the romantic meaning of love... I never forgot about the ones who were so special to me... the things I did for them... the things they did for me... as well as those they did to me... I hold on to the memories because those are the only things that they left me... To this very day I care for them... but of course there are some things that have changed... But with my most recent ex... I'm still holding on hoping someday she'd realize my worth and come back to me... and if that day comes I know I couldn't resist welcoming her back with widely open arms... I love her so much... I am not certain if it's just because it's still too fresh... but right now all I understand and believe in is that I do truly love her... yes I admit I am bitter at some point... I am bitter because she's no longer mine... but I'm trying my best to at least be the best friend that I promised her I'll always be... so that I could continue to keep the most solid words I ever said to her... that I WILL NEVER LEAVE... just as it is engraved deep within my mind, my heart and my soul... and I believe someday whether she comes back or not the bitter me would become better...
3 responses
• United States
18 Jun 08
i tend to have flash backs from traumatizing things in my past so for me the memories make me bitter or upset.. and i am constantly reminded of them that i dont remember the good ones as much as i should..
• New Zealand
18 Jun 08
I see... well in my case even the good ones make me bitter... because they'll just remain as memories... I can't repeat it or redo it anymore...
• United States
19 Jun 08
yeah i can definetly understand that..
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
17 Jun 08
For me it depends on the memories..some memories are beautiful ones that of course are "better" and some memories are tragic and traumatic..those USE TO make me "bitter" but as time went on I finally managed to heal from them and now they have ultimately made me "better" as a person, with my inner strength etc etc....Some things I SHOULD remember or have memories of I dont at all...they've been completely blocked (much of my childhood was for example) and I dont remember a great deal of stuff..
• New Zealand
18 Jun 08
yeah... I think I should also learn to start healing myself already...
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
It can either make a person bitter or better, either way it all depends on them, on how they want so badly to relive those memories or forget them. We can choose to be bitter: regretful, full of haste and miserable! or better: moving on, reliving the memory each day and hoping to have more and even greater memories to come(^^,)
• New Zealand
18 Jun 08
yeah you're right... it really depends on the person... thanks for reminding me about that...