Why is it so hard for a women to accept her mans women friend?
@Browntemptation (48)
June 17, 2008 11:34am CST
I would really like to learn, why it's so hard for women in general to accept their partners female friends. When the word female friend comes around a women and her partner, alot of jealousy emotions and arguging comes around. I know it's child like behaviour, but really who wants another female hanging around their man and getting close.
Please can I hear some tories and reeasons!!
Thanks B
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
I have never got upset or jealous with my fiance for having female friends at all. As he doesn't get upset or jealous with me having guy friends. To be totally honest why should women or men for that fact get upset. We are only friends. Having friends is harmless. It is a sad truth that most women who get upset about their boyfriend talking to another girl let alone a girl talking to their boyfriend is in highschool. But I can honestly say these are not women they are little girls who don't know how to have a proper relationship.
@Browntemptation (48)
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19 Jun 08
I don't really think it separates girls from women. Every human is an individual and has emotions. Im a women and I have emotions too. My partner gets a little jealous if I talk online to men, but he understands to a point that I knew them before him. Not all but some. I don't disagree with all your statement, womwen should be mature enough to not worry, but emotions can always play a big role.
Thanks B
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
19 Jun 08
Thats alot of the problem. Emotions do play a big role on it. But if it is harmless then what is the big deal? I have alot of guy friends and when I say alot I have friends from all over the world. Not normal for a girl to have and alot of people clearly see alot of my contacts on my phones is about 75% male. Everyone always says to my fiance aren't you upset, aren't you jealous. He turns around and states when we go out I know she is coming home with me. When she is out with her friends (male or female) I know she is coming home to me. She sleeps in my bed at night so what do I really have to be jealous over. I am very thankful that I have such an understanding fiance.
@jasonanderson (151)
• United States
18 Jun 08
It's a valid concern. As a guy, I'll gladly admit that guys have little to no interest in women strictly as "friends", unless maybe they've known each other since childhood, and even then romantic activity isn't ruled out. So I don't mind when my girlfriend complains about me talking to other girls. She's right to do so.
@Browntemptation (48)
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19 Jun 08
Hi Jasonanderson,
Thankyou for being real with me. I know guys have girls/women as friends when they either grew up with them in the family or in school. I find it hard to beleive that a man can keep a women friend. Even if they hads one, their partner would always be on their back. That would lead a man to slowly drift away from his friend.
@Browntemptation (48)
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19 Jun 08
If he cheats with his friend (women), then he can't really be trusted around other females. A male should be able to resist their self among lady friends. They can look, but thats about it. I understand that temptaion is their, but why put yourself tyhrough it, and make a move. Why not they just have male friends so they are not tempted.
Thanks for getting back to me. Jealousy is a key factor in these situations.
Thanks B
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
20 Jun 08
My spouse doesn't have female friends!
None! At all. He's a loner and just
likes to hang out with his family at home and
go to work.
I'm not really jealous of anyone he hangs out with.
But I am jealous if he doesn't spend his free
time with me.
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I know for some women(myself included), When I have a man in my life I like to think that I'm the only woman in his life that matters, however irrational that may sound. If he has female friends, then I'm obviously not the only woman in his life and that makes me seem less important to him. It doesnt make me jealous, it just makes me feel less important.
Hugs, Tianna
@Browntemptation (48)
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19 Jun 08
I understand how you feel, I would hate my man to have time with another women, and be in an environment with just the two of them. I beleive I should be the only women in his life, but in some situations
thats not possible.
Thanks B
@BloomerBeak (106)
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
It's possible that a woman is just insecure, or simply just possessive. I don't want to generalize all women, but as i've noticed, most women don't want their men looking at another because of possessiveness. I don't really know if it's true, but as i see it, if a woman likes a man, she doesn't want that man to get involved with other woman.
As for me, so much as I trust my man, but I still can't take away the fact that I want him just for myself. Sounds selfish, but really true.
@sureshmaya (11)
• India
18 Jun 08
Its quite humane that being jealous with her partner's female friend. The intensity of possessiveness plays a vital role in aggrevating the issue. It may not be out of love only, but even a qurelling wife cant admit her man's female friend. I think this the real distinction between a frindship and a marital relationship.
