Depression: How can I get over losing my daddy?

I know its hard because i've been there but the key is acceptance.You have to accepth that your dad is not with you anymore and let go of the sadness feeling of losing him.By that way, he will also be in peace wherever he is.You are right!You have to let him go and have peace for both of you.

Well it sounds to me like you and your father were very close. It seems like you just rushed around and did what you had to do and then tried to go back to normal life. Which is a mistake. I think you are really trying to move on and not grieve and sometimes thats just not what the body needs. You need to really actually allow yourself time to grieve over him so that you can move on. Allow yourself to cry and be sad, trying to not be sad, trying to move on to quickly doesn't work. I heard of this exercise you can do, although I've never really tried it maybe it'll help you, I've heard that it does help. Write a letter to him, telling him how hard it has been for you to move on, how devastating losing him was. How you know he's in a better place now, Write down some memories in the letter, like that really fun thing you did with him when you were 12 or whatever. What I do, and still do now, is talk to them. When I really start missing my grandpa's I will find a nice quiet space and just talk to them (basically im talking to myself but I feel that they are there and are listening) I tell them the struggles I'm going through right now, how I miss them so much even though they've been gone for so long. You know you never do just move on. I was close to both of my grandfathers, they were both amazing men and I loved them so much. One passed away back in 1998, the other passed away in 2002, but I still cry sometimes. I still miss them so much, all the time. I still have family get togethers, or things that I'm doing where I wish so bad that they were there. You can't ever stop missing your dad. You will never move on and forget about him. You just have to live in honor of him. I know one thing that makes me feel better is thinking that the steps I am taking make them happy, make them proud of me. I really don't think you should be on pills, it masks the pain, or it tries to take it away, and you need to grieve. That is how you get to the point that you can go on with life. You are trying to just rush through the grieving process because you want your normal happy life back, and it doesn't work like that. Grieving can take months, it can take years. Like I said, my grandfather has been gone for 10 years and I still cry about it sometimes. You have to allow yourself to be terribly sad, depressed. He was, he is your dad, and you loved him so so much, and it's okay to be devastated by the loss of him. You have to allow yourself to feel all these feelings, instead of just trying to hurry them up, or push them to the side. Stop the counselor, stop the pills, and just grieve. Take a couple days attached to a weekend off work, or a week, and just honor his memory. Cry, cry till you can't cry no more. Talk to him, talk to God, make a scrap book with pictures of you and him. Do something other than taking pills to make the pain go away. You have to feel the pain to move on.

You can never get over the loss of someone who is very close to you. Only thing you can hope for is that it wont hurt as much as when you first found out. There are lots of things (healthy or otherwise) that can help individuals diminish the pain they feel. Some are fortunate to have friends and family who are supportive, others have jobs that they bury themselves under so as not to think about it, and others still find new leases on life and take up hobbies that they never would have thought of doing (skydiving, bungee jumping, etc). The trick is finding what works for you. What can you do that will help you not to think about it as much. Do you have any supportive friends for example?

I was really young with i lost the only grandma i knew... So i really can't help with the losting close family, But on the other hand i can tell you this just keep there memory.