what is more important, to love or to be loved

Since unconditional love is vital to a serious relationship, reciprocal love is necessary for a relationship to work. As far as loving someone who doesn't return the feelings, it is indeed very painful. I wouldn't say it's hard; if you're in love, it's easy to love the person. It comes naturally. But it is painful, wanting more than anything to share your life and all that you are with someone and not being able to. I've learned that it's an everyday struggle, and the best way to get through it is to focus on the positive things in your life, and the ways in which the person has inspired you and changed your life and the reasons why you love him/her so much. Whenever you start to feel sad about the situation, just think about those things. Namaste, Becky

Ideally, both are equally important. If I though would take into consideration my innate selfish human nature, being loved has much more significance to me because it feels better. (and that better feeling is something I and other human beings like me painstakingly sought) Yes, definitely you'll give a lot of love to that significant other in your life and if not given ample reciprocation or acknowledgement you know at the back of your head it feels awful. (and that awful feeling is not what we're looking for, we simply don't want to be unhappy)

Very true. If you love someone and you are not loved back it hurts. Though I somehow don't believe in that old saying of picking the person who loves you over the person you love. I believe love can teach to live happily to anyone.

The feeling of being loved gives you strength but loving someone gives you courage.unrequited love does hurt but it takes the love to its heights.A momentary pain goes for making of eternal stories,immortal memories and the effigies of sacrifice. Happiness in love is an odd thing for its pain is happiness,its desperation is happiness.

I guess if you are loved and you do not learn to love then you might be selfish. If you love but are not loved then you might be manipulated. The best if of course to have both/

To love and to be loved are qually important.If I were a woman ,of course ,I would choose someone loving me because as a women ,to some extent,she seems to be a weaker in the society ,and she thinks more trifles than men ,and will lose her temper.so she needs someone to conform her.But now I am a man ,I will choose someone I love.I will scafice all I have to make her happy

i think for me the important is to be loved. To loved by someone gives you a pride that makes you feel that your important to others. with that, they are willing to take good care and love you for who you are.Its a very fascinating thing that uplifts your moral and personality as a person.

I have been told that is it not who you love, but who loves you. and I do believe that there is some truth in there because sometimes we love another and that love is not returned the way we wish for it to come back to us and it usually ends up hurting us

i thinnk it is a two way street loving some one and being loved is very important because if you love someone and they dont love you back it hurts i think it is abuse if you are lvoed and dont show love back hearts get broken and people get hurt so i feel that it is heart to heart matter and there is feelings involved so i dont think people should break toher peoples hearts but i know we do not live in a perfect world at all

Hi Zhiushuzhen, What you say is right. Not only lovers, everyone needs love in which ever way it is avilable, through parents, children, friends, husband, etc.. Love should always be requitted. If not it hurts a lot. Have you ever loved some one, may be like a friend who did not love you back, how would it feel? Very hurtful. It is not only aboyut lovers.. It is right for everyone, as a kid you love your parents or as a parent who love a kid.. just like that.. Actually the saying which you have given is said generally, 'a person should marry a person who loves him / her rather the person he/ she loves. There is security in that...

Yes, I think both of them - to love and to be loved - are equally important. I personally think that I could only be truely and really happy only if I could love him and get his love back. So I think they are both important both "to love" and "to be loved".

for me, i would still want to choose the man that i love. i can sacrifice my own happiness for the man that i love. if ever he doesn't love me, it would be fine. as long as he is happy, i'll be happy for him, eventhough it hurts me... for me, loving someone should be unconditional. yes, it would be great if the person we love love us also. but for me loving someone is ones decision. we cannot push someone to love us back.. we can only wait if they will really love us back... they also said that true love means setting your love one free... i will let the person that i love to love freely...

Yeah,you are right,they are both important,and we should learn to love and acknowledge love,or the hurts will happen.Personally,i agree with the old saying,maybe i feel i get little now.

You are exactly right.. If a man loves you more than you do to him it is a good feeling. Women are easily developed when a man is caring and loving. But men is so hard. If the woman love the man more than he love her, it is really hard. Or maybe The man don;t love that woman and the woman was so insistent with her love to the man? Oh!! well, she will be in great agony. It is hard to please a man when he doesn't feel anything to the woman. But for me the best is Love and be Loved. If both have the same feeling, it is really great!!!!

Well both are important as in shopuld be mutual but if u compare then feeling of "Being loved " is great Take care

good day. To love and be love is the essence of life. Without it man and woman would be just like an invisible speck, existing but not living.

I agree that to love and to be loved is important... Of course, you will not happy if no one loving you in returned.. We all know that sometimes the one we love doesn't love us the way we want.. But we cannot forced him/her to love us the way we love him/her... I believe that true love is unconditional... When we offer love to someone we should not ask in return... We can be happy loving him/her alone even he/she doesn't love us... I know it's hurt but that life and most of all that is love...

It'd be very noble to say 'to love'. However, I'm going to be human and say 'to be loved'. After all, it'll take up less of me emotionally, as the mental attachment will not be that strong. I'd not be so hurt, as compared to being in a relationship where I love him more than he loves me. Of course, the ideal situation is both.

Hey,man...when u said that u believe both are equally important...I confused how do u measure it?.....who loves more?..who is loser?...........do u feel tired when u compare everything everymonment?.........

Loving and being loved are equally important to me. I think in order to love someone completely and receive love in return, one must love themselves. Once one knows how to love themselves, it's an amazing feeling to have someone love you back and be able to return that love unconditionally. When it comes to marriage, I don't believe in divorce. I feel that in a marriage, both people should work on the marriage until they love the other more than they love themselves.