Trial Marriage/Lived-in or legal marriage, which do you prefer?
By Bebs08
@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
June 18, 2008 10:52am CST
some of my friends said it is good to have trial marriage first before hitching yourself for a lifetime. Their reasons are.. they have time to adjust their different characteristics and if it won't work it is easy to part ways without any legal actions to make. another is that, it is expensive to have a wedding party, just live together it is just the same thing. Other;s said, I just want to have someone to share with the apartment bills and other things.. so we decided to live together and if we can find somebody,, we can just say good bye easily..
Oh!! dear!! do you agree with these reasons? For me, whatever are the reasons I will not go for trial marriage. Legal marriage is always good when you are sure if yourself. If you are not then, wait.. for the right one rather than live together. There are many disadvantages of trial marriage.
What do you think about this?
do you agree or disagree?
I want to hear your opinions.
3 responses
@onlinetomakemoney (605)
• Australia
12 Jul 08
I don't think living together is an answer. It has it's benefits but it can actually hurt more I think. I think the idea of living apart and learning to live apart makes you stronger in your releationship.
The rest will come later.
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@LITTLELEA28 (34)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I personally have experience with this one...My current husband and I lived together for 4 years before we got married. We also had two children during that time. We always felt like we were married to each other before the papers were filled out and it became "legal." Sure, it would have been easier to "walk out the door" before the legal mumbo jumbo, but if two people are ready to go their seperate ways, then it really won't matter if there is a piece of paper dividing them or not. I think that if you are going to do it...do it right. Get married legally, that way if something ever happens to you or your loved one you'll have legal options. As for expense in a wedding party...my husband and I went to a JOP for $50.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Well, I like your point of view on this. Yes, if 2 people are ready to go separate ways, the paper could not help them stay together if they really don't like to anymore. That is the reason why more people start to live together before getting married legally to be sure that they can stand it together until the end. That is also a good idea.
Thanks for sharing...
@NuclearRabbit (650)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Sadly living alone is not longer a choice, depending on where you live you will need two incomes. Just dating would be nice so that two people can get to know each other before combinding incomes and expenses but it just isn't possible for some people who are in bad situations.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
18 Jun 08
That's right I got what you mean. So, some people are force to live together to help each other's life situation practically. but not that they are committed to each other? Well, most common reasons of them who are in this situation.
