How do you show each of your kids you love them the same?

hi kittenmc. each child is a different kind of personality. they are not cakes baked in the same bakery.and each requires different kind of attention , care and upbringing. some children need pampering others are faithful, some are more intelligent than others, so they need different upbringing.

I do not have any children but I grow up with this problem. I have notice that my father loves my elder sister more than me. When I was smaller I used to make it affect me but since becoming a adult I over look it. I would advise you to have a family meeting and explain to the children that you love each and everyone. Let them now that each of them are different and because of this you will have to pay more attention to one than the other. Even if you love one more than the other do not display it. What my mother use to do is whenever she is going to buy something for one she put down the money until she is able to buy for everyone of us. So that no one is left out. When it comes to graduation or birthday everyone play apart in it. No matter how small. So that we know that this is a special occasion for that brother or sisters. Parenting is not born with. What we learn is from day to day activities. All the best.

I technaclly only have one child - I have 2 step kids too. Although I try really hard to love them the same its not the same. They are of some one else. Plus my daughter is only 18 months and they are 11 and 7. So my daughter is much more demanding of me and my time. When my step kids are around I try really hard to do special things for them so they know I love them. I try not to show favortisim between them either. The 7 year old is a lot easier then the 11 year old. I recently re-did there rooms to show them that I think of them too. I think its all about the little things you do for your kids. Find some thing that you can do with each of them seperate from the others. Spend time on there hobbies with them. Or take one grocery shopping with you. Have each one help you with dinner 1 day a week. Take 1 hour a week and set it for your "date" time. Monday Wednesday and Thursday spend 1 hour with each of them every week. On Fridays do a family thing a game or dinner out. That way they have some alone time to look forward to. They know that every Monday (or what ever day) I get an hour with mom. The big key is to not go over that hour with one and not the other. Which means you have to plan things that will only take an hour. If you don't have time to do it every week do it every other week or once a month. Get a "kids" calander and set your dates in PEN. Show them that you want to spend time with each of them. That will give you some balance with each of your kids. And remember to take the parent hat off when your in there "hour" it should be friend time then!

how much ever you try the children will defenitely feel they are sidelined among siblings and whne they are young maybe 5-8 they voice theri protests but as they grow older they keep it to themselves, its just how you make them feel that you are not pampoering one person by ignosring the other, they will take it in the right way

I have two children a girl 9 years old and a boy 6 years old. I love both of them the same but I show it to them in different ways. My daughter is a cheerleader and has been for 4 years now so I do spend alot of my time with her at cheer practice and competitons. My son plays baseball and I go to all his pratices and games. Sometimes if I have been really busy with cheer I will set aside a day for just me and my son to do something together. He really enjoys this. I make sure that I balance my time I spend with each of them and make it equal. Sometimes it seems that I spend more time with my daughter bc cheer is extremly demanding, but my son understands and he knows that we have our own special time together.

I have 5 kids, each of them knows we love them just as much as the other ones. We spend individual time with them doing things that they like to do, tell them daily that we love them and do things together as a family. It's the little things that show how much we love them, the little kiss on the forehead at night, the "mommy" or "daddy" band aids when they scrape their knees (kiss to make it better). The hanging out together just because, sitting and doing things like puzzles or getting down on the floor and building lego cities or coloring with them. Playing in the backyard. All of this is a show of love, it shows them they are loved, cared for and that mom and dad want to take the time to cuddle, play and be with them. Just a dinner conversation shows a child you love them - "how was your day?" or "How are you today?". For me, the little things done end up equaling to quality larger things. Did I make sense?

Here's my theory... No matter how hard you try, you will not get your kids to admit that you love them and treat them all equally! Sorry for the bad news. lol The fact is, as you said, they are all different. They all have different needs. Different personalities. Some are more needy, some are more independent. No matter how much you try, there will always be differences in each relationship. That's just how humans work. And kids? Well, they like to manipulate. No matter how "good" they are. They want to get what they want, and if it means making mom feel guilty, the so be it! I think deep down inside the will know (if not now, then someday) that you love them all and that you do the best you can for each of them.

spend time alone one on one with each of your kids and each one will feel pretty darned special. it always works and is so easy to do. my mom always did that with me and my younger sister, and I did it with my own two also but my two were only ten months apart so both were equally special to me. I lost my little girl'when she was eight.

I'm not a mother yet. But I definitely think parents shouldn't favor on particular kid especially in front of other children. It will make those kids jealous and unhappy with it. I'm one of the kids when I saw my parents favor my other siblings. To avoid it, try to meet each of your kids' needs in a special ways. Such as celebrating their birthdays and give them special gift that they'll not have to share.

hmm how can i say...i just hv 1 child so i don't know how i'm gonna act soon. to show my children that i love them all the same. I'll read through all the comments and they will be my guide soon.

i dont know i guess its one of those things where even though they are from the same mother they are all different. each one requires different care and each one does different things to get into trouble. i think the only thing you can do is just know that you love them all even though at time they may think you love them differently. and just make sure you treat them all the same and dont do things for one that you dont want to do for the others without any specific reason. i have to ask myself that question alot with my four year old and two month old and my mom doesnt help much becuase she is always questioning why my four year old is always in trouble, is it because i dont love him as much and i am like why dont you ask Dillon why he is so bad, becuase he wouldnt be in trouble if he werent so bad. just because one is always in trouble doesnt mean you love them any differently. So just keep your head up and it'll all come together in the end.

What you said is very common in the daily life,and What your kids feel is also my feel before.I think you should pay more attention to each of your children,try to find their own taste and interest ,and then use different ways to show your love to every individual according his hobit.If you satisfy them,I think,none of them will have the idea of less love from you.