He is so ungrateful!

Yeah I understand your pain! I didn't get anything for mothers day either not even a card. I didn't get him any thing back. I'm over it - its our job as parents and spouses to do those little things for each other. But I won't do it again until its done for me. Christmas was the real stopper for me. I bought him from me, from each of the kids, and a big present from every one - all I got was the bracelte I bought and gave him to give me from my kids. I don't normally do that but it was an awsome sale! Anyway after that I figured I'm not buying any thing for him any more. And I haven't! I would have bought some thing for fathers day because thats the kids thing but because of mothers day nope. By the way all I asked for - for mothers day was a home made card from the kids. He didn't even take the time to help them do that for me. CRAPPPY! So how do I handle it - I don't buy any thing for him any more.

What do you mean it's okay that your husband didn't get you anything for Mother's Day? It's not okay and you really shouldn't have rewarded him for being so inconsiderate by giving gifts to him. I don't know how long your husband has been like this but you should not reward bad behavior. You wouldn't do that with your child, right? If your marriage is on solid ground and you can talk to him you should let him know how you feel about his behavior on both Mother's Day and Father's Day and see how he reacts. If he shuts you down don't give him so much as a glass of water if he's been baking in the sun for 10 hours.

I finally quit buying gifts for my husband. He would open the gift, say thanks and toss it on the dresser or on a table and wouldn't look back. Even clothing was left in the box or tossed around the room. So, I decided not to take the time to shop and think of a gift that would never be used anyway. No more frustration for me in that department.

I have read all these responses and am sick at heart. whats up ]with men today. I always got a card from both husband and son on mothers day and some small but nice gift from both of them. but I had to clue my husband in as he said you are not my mother. and I said oh yes but I am the mother of your son, so its up to you to help my son gift me and he did. he loved me and he knew we did not have a lotof money so the gifts were small but nice. so clue your guys in, you are the mothers of their kids so tell them how you feel.

No he isn't, mine is. I used to get him things that he had said that he wanted or things that i know he needs but he would always just get THAT LOOK on his face (i'm sure you know the one). He always said thank you and that he liked it but i just KNEW he was disappointed. We have been married for 14years now and about 4years ago i just started giving him money and telling him to get whatever he wants! I am saved the time of figuring out what to give him and we are both saved the disappointment of me giving him the wrong thing! This way he can spend all the time his little heart desires in the fishing tackle store--and i do not have to! The kids do still give him gifts which he always enjoys. This was the way i saved his life and did not go to jail for killing him!

It sounds like you have a major problem in your marriage. Did you tell him how you felt? If my boyfriend did that to me, I'd be really mad and would never get him anything again, unless he had a really good excuse.

i understand your feeling. may be he is just a person like this. he is very casual in case of showing that he cares. I have seen some who do not have any habit of gifting.

Sounds like you need to tell him how he made you feel. I don't have that problem, I gave my s/o a Father's Day card from me and 'baby' aka our dog lol and he came and thanked me right then. But, we always show each other that we are grateful for whatever the other did, no matter how small, even if it's just getting the other one a cup of coffee, we still tell each other thank you. And we both say please when we ask the other one to do something. Not sure how or if you can change this behaviour in your husband, other than trying to talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel.

Men are just simply not thoughtful and are not made that way. Worry not...mine is even worst. There were times he forgot special occasions...of course he greeted me during Mother's day, but gift? Never...he does not seem to go out of his way to buy the gift. Since he is out-of-town, I was not able to buy a gift for him, but my daughter did. The bottom line is: Majority of the male species are simply not sentimental, less thoughtful and caring...sigh! Unlike the women who are more thoughtful and sensitive. I HAD a male friend whom I really treated as a special friend, but he never returned the favors...and so the list goes on...it's really unnerving. We just have to accept this reality about men, or else we'll all freak out.

Do you really like giving him gifts out of generosity and thoughtfulness, or you just want to give him gifts just because you want something in return? Of course, being sweet and thoughtful means a lot to because they add sparks and strengthens the relationship. If he's really that kind of person who's not that generous even before your relationship started then don't expect that he'll change unless you would want to confide your problem to him. Maybe all you really needed is a time for you to talk intimately. Be honest with him and let him know that you also would like to receive gifts from him because it also shows that you're worth every cent that he's spending.

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I felt so sad about what you have said to your husband because as far as I am concern "husband and wife" need to protect each other... and I don't think he's ungrateful perhaps he just doesn't know how to express his feelings. Did you tell him how bad do you feel when he is not showing any care or concern about you and the things you are buying for him? It happened to me many times but I understand my husband because we have different cultures. Many things I have bought for him and in return I didn't see him appreciate them. What I did I told him that I won't buy anything for him instead if he wants to buy something I just accompanied him. He loves to buy things for me and not just the cheapest ones but the expensive ones!

Well, i guess the best way is to discuss it woth him but it would be pointless if he forgets about it afterwards. Dang...

Perhaps he is just careless,he puts all his heart on the job to make a living for the whole family,and forget many things.Or perhaps ,he don't know your feeling.Just talk with him ,speak out your feeling,I think he will satisfy you.

So sorry for you my dear for having not only an unthoughtful but also ungrateful husband. Too bad because we women would prefer them to be. Anyway, just understand your husband, that is his attitude and perhaps you can't change him anymore. I want to believe that he has other ways of making up for those shortcomings, like being good provider, hardworking and responsible husband. So cheer up you don't have a bad husband after all!

yes it happens alot with my boyfriend,especially since noone ever taught him to care about anyone else.but after awhile it gets old and since i dont like feeing hurt or unappreciated i just stopped buyin him anything since he never recognizes my days. i am not saying that you should do that too but after awhile if he keeps being ungrateful you'll probably find away to show him how it feels when someone is ungrateful towards you.