a family member or a loved one goes abroad for work
By iamnes
@iamnes (324)
Philippines
June 18, 2008 12:20pm CST
here in our country, we have very close family ties. a kid usually moves out only when he/she got married. sometimes they even stayed in their parent's house even after getting married and having their own family.
but in my case, since nobody has yet decided to marry, we are all living in our parent's house. we are very close to each other. this year, our eldest brother decided to leave for abroad to work. it's the first time that i will be separated (for so long) to a close loved one whom i grew up with my entire life. i am not sure what to feel, he'll be leaving in less than a month.
these days, workers leave to look for better opportunities in different places. it has become very common.
how do you deal with being so lonely and missing your loved one abroad?
3 responses
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
we are both from the philippines and it is true that there are more people who would rather work abroad and be away from their families but has a good earning rather than working here. my wife (well we are just leaving in before when she left to work abroad, but now we are married and have a son) she left to work abroad and i really dont know what to do. i was so lonely and i mostly went to my mom and sleep there. i still have my own room at my moms house. so if i am alone i can still go home there. it was really lonely. i couldnt eat for days. your brother will be leaving in less than a month and he too has this mixed emotions. feeling like he is excited to leave but half of his heat wanted to stay.
now that we are married and have a son my wife decided to be a house wife and a hands on mom, so i am the one who is trying to have an oportunity to work abroad. i am in a band and worked already at abroad but now it is more difficult to leave because of my son. but we have not much of a choice for our country pays small and the comodities are high. dont forget to pray for your brother. im sure it will be all alright, and now it is easy to communicate with love ones abroad for there is internet access every where.
@iamnes (324)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
it's really difficult, we will definitely pray for him most of the time. it's just very depressing when i think about it. good thing is we can communicate a lot easier.
thanks se7enthbird for sharing and for the advice, it was somewhat comforting. thanks a lot!
@fortknox75 (842)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
Hello iamnes, I clearly imagine hoe you feel right now. It's really depressing when one of our family members go abroad for work. Four years ago, my sister got a job as a nurse in UK. My sister, being the only girl in family, we loved her very much. So we felt very sad when she had to live for work, because we will gonna miss her so much. And we we're worried too about how she'll be gonna handle it. She will be very far from us, and she has nobody there to ask for help when she needs it.
However, that sad feeling will be overcome soon. It's been 4 years now since she left the country and she is doing good.
So cheer-up. It's normal to feel sad because you will be missing your brother. But you'll gonna overcome it. Life has to go on. He got a better opportunity abroad that you should also be thankful of.
Have a great day! 
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
it is really difficult to see a love one leave to work abroad. specially for the first time. i can see that you love your brother so much. you are very concern with him. maybe you are worried about the new sorroundings he will be working at. different culture and different people. but i salute your brother, i think he is doing this for you and the whole family as well. i am a single mom and i have four children. i work abroads too, but now i am at the philippines for 2 years already. i hate to go for i know i am going to miss my babies, but working in the philippines and have four kids and at the same time a single parent is a heart ache. now they are all teens now so i decided to stay, i sometimes still go ut of the country but for 5 days gig only. i have to make sure that they are on the right track.... you know teens now a days if a dont make an eye to them they can be with wrong friends. well back to your brother, dont worry he will be alright just dont forget to send him lots of love even through text messaging or email. lucky for you the internet is very popular already, the times when i was working abroad phone call is the least i can do and i cant afford to do it everyday even if i want to. look at the brighter side of it.... your brother is doing this all for you guys.
sorry for the long response i hope i didnt bore you
