Do you still have adult children living at home?
By guybrush
@guybrush (4658)
Australia
June 18, 2008 6:28pm CST
I found my three daughters were all eager to move out of home in their late teens and begin their independent lives, but my son is happy to remain at home. He's nearly 21, and admittedly not earning much on an apprenticeship ... but do you find boys take longer to fledge?
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@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
19 Jun 08
my foster daughter was out and married by 19, however, my son took forever, until he was in his mid 20's, he would come and go, but to move out was like pulling teeth, It was not that he was any bothered, it was just I thought he would of wanted to move out. Today, 10 years later I am still very closed to both my children and living with my son this time, helping him and his family for a little while, and being a weekend visitor with my foster daughter, I feel very blessed all around.
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
19 Jun 08
I agree, lynn2457, our son is no bother ... but I think he's happy to have someone organise his laundry and keep the fridge and pantry stocked with food! We're happy to have him at home for the time being, but we'd like to retire and move within the next couple of years and he doesn't want to move to the location we've chosen. I'm trying to work on his budgeting skills - without much success!
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@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Well, I would advise you to do as I did, I gave him a choice, and it was either go with or stay with friends and / or family. He knew I was moving, and I did not care that he wanted to go or not, sounds cruel probably, but I knew I had raised him up, he could work, I loved him he knew it, but I was going to do what I wanted to do, and he could join with me or not. Well, he did follow, after 5 years here, he meet this great gal and they married, and I have a great grandson, however, I would not allow him to control my life. and again it may of sound cruel, but that was his chose. Especially since he had choices also he could make, Good luck
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
19 Jun 08
Most definitely - boys seem to take longer to leave the nest. Our daughter left home in her late teens, and our sons were well into their twenties before they left (and one of them keeps coming back, lol!)
I left home when I was 18, but both my brothers were a lot older than me when they left home.
@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
19 Jun 08
That is what my son did, his wife takes care of everything, even though he works hard. I really feel for her. She is an awesome lady, I am proud to have her as my daughter in law, I just wish my son was a little more motivated as he was when he was younger. Wonder could it be my fault he is the way he is, mmm not sure, but I am so blessed that he found her. Good Luck , and God bless you and yours
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
19 Jun 08
It does seem to be a trend, abbey19! I have quite a few friends in the same boat, with their sons happy to hang around a bit longer. Even the ones who have left tend to bring laundry home or drop in for meals. My daughters also left home in their late teens - one went to a military academy and the other two got married. All three are very independent and organised with their lives and finances ... whereas our son very much 'lives for the moment' - with mixed results!
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
My daughter moved out of home at around 20 years of age, and my son moved out twice and then came home again each time. They now are both buying their own places but I found it very hard when they did move out. Yes for me my son stayed around longer but don't mind not having to pick up clothes off the floor etc. anymore......amazing what we can get used to!
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@whilyn (75)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
Filipinos normally live with their parents until they get married then they are expected to move out but still some lives with their parents though they already have a family .. a common scenario in the philippines..
but I was eager to go far from home so i chose to study college in a different city .. i'm 25 now and works in a city far from home.
Honestly, I would love to work closer to home and live with my parents.. I miss them and I know they wouldn't mind..
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