is it ok to settle for someone else while waiting for the right one?

its not ok to settle until you find the right one because all you are doing is hurting yourself because you probably wont be truly happy. and you ar probably gonna end up hurting the person you are with and sometimes all it takes is one person to make another go bad. so i would suggest just waiting until the right person comes along.

never settle for someone that you know isnt right. its not fair to that person and it might cause you to miss the true one. hope this helps

I don't think it is good to settle for someone while you hope to be with someone else. I never settled and I believe I am with the right one.

Fear of being alone is never a good reason. That puts the other person in harms way. That is too cruel to do to anyone. I like myself. If I did something like use another person that way I don't think I'd like myself too much.

Sometimes we tell ourselves that we do not see the one we love and then we settle. I wouldn't call it settlement. Have you ever look inside that relationship and see where that person truly love you (us) and then your hurt started to melt and love begins to come through the pores. When we are looking outside we do not see what is happening on the inside. So it is best we appreciate what we have because sometimes the ones on the outside is more terrible. I have been in a relationship this year is five years and yes he has hurt me alot but I have to look at two sides. He was infected and he didn't know. I on the other hand didn't know the symptoms. He love me and I didn't love him but when I look at the things he has done to show me how he care for me then sometimes I think twice. I will prefer to settle with the one who is trying then to go after someone who we think is much better but later down we become miserable when we see the mistakes that we have made. Remember that men/women are wolves/wolverine in sheep clothing. This saying is long before our generations and has been proven time and time again.

Bottom line is, how would you feel if a girl you've been with one day tells you that she finally found somebody right for her & she has only been with you till the guy she was looking for freed up? Basically she settled for you while she was waiting for someone else? I strongly believe in "do unto other the way you want to have them do unto you"

Yeah i think its okey, everyone needs a close person to be loved and love, but I think the long run the right one is that guy/girl who you care about in a long-term relationship and she/he will change for you some stuff and you too so you make it the right one for each other.

The question is are you being honest with yourself by doing that? I guess you are not... You tend to find to become very selfish along the way with your partner. I am pretty sure that the other party may truly love you but you are not because you just chose because you were afraid to be left alone in time. There's nothing wrong being alone at least you are not cheating your partner and yourself as well. Living in a relationship that is false is living your life in lie.

i think its a mistake to just settle like for anybody. i think if you do that. u end up meeting the one. u will regret that u made the decision to just give up hope, and cheated our selves.

I really think I should wait for someone that we both love each other very much.But the truth is now the boy with me is the one who love me very much.I don't like him,but sometimes I really need him.I tell him I don't love you,but he doesn't leave,he is still waiting.I'm happy and guilty...

I think it's worth to wait for the right one. Who know when you meet the right one but you still dating the current boy/girl friend. It's hard for you to choose and make right decision by then, right?

if you can keep from feeling guity, me i cant do it, i dont want to use a person, specially if that person thinks she finally found her right one in me, i cant stand that kind of guilt for a long time, id rather find someone who is also waiting for someone and would like to be with me while shes waiting

No personally I don't think it is ok or fair for you or that other person you are settling for. If you are waiting for the right one and saying to settle for someone else, that someone else may have feelings for you and it is not fair to them especially if you know they are not the right one and odds are the relationship will not go anywhere. All the more, it is not fair for you to be in a realtionship with someone you do not truly want to be with. My advice is if you haven't found the right one, then stay single in the meantime and when the right one comes along you will know. This way may save you from breaking someone elses heart and also a lot of aggravation.

Learn to spend some time alone. It's very wrong to string someone along if you know they are not right for you. If you both know it then you're both just wasting your time. The time you spend alone allows you to reflect on past relationships and also lets you better understand who you are. You will never be sure who the right one is if you don't first know who you are.

well i want to say.... just dont wait for best dont kill your time make most of it... dont consider any reltation a time pass give your 100% and that someone will be right one very soon... so be true and go on...

No this is not ok....if you are not with the right the person, than dont be with anyone until you find the right person. No need in hurting someone if you know you are going to hurt them at some point....

no,,,the two of you will be lonely then...you will never be happy with the 2nd best...he wil never be with you becuase you are not true to him...

Wait for your Ms. Right and don't ever settle for someone you don't really love. That is in fairness to both of you.

When the right person comes along you will know!! The other question, what happens when you loose the right person?? Is it harder to find the right person, or loose him\her and decide to start over or ust carry on with the memories??

it's hard to say is it ok. you know not everyone is lucky enough to find the right one. first ,how to know he/she is the right one? i think maybe i will never know if i don't try. but never try if you already know he/she isn't the one.