Do you take a moment to breath or are you an emotional jumper?
By taface412
@taface412 (3175)
United States
June 18, 2008 7:04pm CST
If someone makes a nasty, or sarcastic comment either to you or about you how do you react?
I just ignore them, because usually when people jump to conclusions and make statements that are harmful they are reacting in an emotional manner. And what does that do other than breed more emotional reactions that eventually end up really offending and making the person look like a fool. When controversial topics of discussion come up or ones that may even imply controversy I have noticed a great deal of people instead of speaking facts turn it into a joke. And I am not against joking as I have done this myself a few times, but try to interject some type of logical line of thought to encourage growth. As I love to learn about others and things in general.
So if and when you come across situations like these how do you react?
14 responses
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Taface, I try to be a reasonable person. If the statement is directed at me, then most of the time I can ignore it. I can not always ignore when the cause of controversy is aimed at a friend or family member. There are times that someone must say something. WE can not be a community that is a free for all, and everyone turns their back on someone who is being kicked and racked over the coals unjustifiably. When I am am wrong I admit that I am. But I can not ignore an injustice to someone else.
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@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
When somebody talks sarcastically or comments negatively about me or my answer, I would first look at their profile to know where they are coming from since some of us here have different cultures that may find our answers offensive. If they really are nasty and are hitting me below the belt and questions my knowledge and ability, I would really give them a piece of my mind. Sometimes, some people don't really understand what you are talking about yet they comment negatively so I just ignore them since they are just wasting my time. We cannot deny the fact that there are people here who are not as broadminded as we are so I don't need I need to argue with them.
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@missybal (4490)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I try to avoid those situations as much as possible but if at all possible I ignore that person if it does happen because usually it is a family member who would do it. But if it's someone I really don't know that well or who I don't really care what they think of me I tend to jump all over them. I'm a highly opinionated person who many people do not agree with so this often gets me in trouble so as much as possible I try to walk away but it's not always easily done.
@figjam00 (1445)
• India
22 Jun 08
In my view I am still emotional immature. Whenever I hear anything nasty and sarcastic I respond reactively in other words mess it all up. I know the theory that we have the freedom to choose our own response but I still unable to do that. I guess in years to come I might have the power to chose my response.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
19 Jun 08
I used to make answer back whenever someone makes nasty or sarcastic comment to me but since the couple of months that past I have learn to swallow my spit before answering and to tell you the truth sometimes it hurt even doing this. But the way my little country is going on with killing I start to practice it and asking God to help me just ignore. My late mother always say that the biggest insult is when someone is talking and you ignore them so that is what I am doing now.
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@jessabelle (34)
• United States
22 Jun 08
I usually simmer. I know if I were to let go and not hold back I would probably rip someone a new one! I have to step back sometimes and breathe a few deep breaths.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I fight back at them. I don't take things lying down. I'm a very stubborn and opinionated person and I have a big mouth. LOL
I definitely come back at a person with something I have to say. But I don't just jump before I speak either. I do think about what I'm saying.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
19 Jun 08
i always just shout nasty things right back at them to shut them up, and they go crying in their holes like their butts embarrassed of their ugliness. usually people like that are so embarrassed of their lives that they need to lash out on others they hate with jealousy in order to make themselves feel better about their ugliness and pathetic lives.
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I am a human doormat. I admit it. It really depends on what was said. And usually people just like to walk all over me and I let them. It's not something I'm proud of, but I"m working on changing that aspect of myself. I think I was born to love everybody, if that makes sense. I've never had a negative thought about anyone and how many people can actually make this statement? Probably about 3% or less. Sad, really. I wish I could say that I speak my mind, but that attempt always falls short.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I'm borderline sarcastic and witty, I can go 60/40 either way. I feel humor is something that breaks a barrier so we can not take it too seriously, but there is a time to defend yourself or justify your actions. Those times aren't as rare as we'd like them to be, but they do happen. Most people have some logic but can't redeem it when the time comes, they either jump ship too soon or fire first and ask questions later. This breeds, as you say, emotional reactions, we each have a past that shapes our future, so when we get personally offended, we react according to what we know and believe.
@drsparkle314 (529)
• New Zealand
19 Jun 08
It actually depends on how it was delivered... a criticism is actually helpful if you want to become a better person... but if the criticism has come out of a conclusion without proof I can't help but prove it otherwise...
If I'm in the mood I let it pass... but if they caught me in a bad mood they're sure to get a big blow of revenge...
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I mostly, if not always, take a moment to stop and close my eyes to breath and calm myself. It's normal to get angry but for me, you can always take it slow by not shouting or hurting people physically. It's just an emotional outburst and you don't have to hurt or do something unreasonable just because you can't control yourself. You, it's a good practice. In this life, it's a matter of how you take everything slow in order to survive. Keeping your cool is one of the best ways to overcome struggles and go on with life.
@inuprincess2006 (36)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Well, I'm a very opinionated person, especially if I'm passionate about the topic. I speak my mind, and most of the time, I don't censor what I say. I'm not easily swayed, and I really don't care what people think of me or what I believe. I'm a very open-minded person, so I sometimes find myself in debates with people who are not. If someone attacks me or my opinion, I say what I need to say and go on 'bout my business.
