Mums upset!!
By MySTiQue23
@MySTiQue23 (113)
Australia
June 18, 2008 10:20pm CST
My brother and his partner had a baby boy he's nearly one now, mum visited my brothers partner in hospital and I myself also, but mum went out and made up this huge basket of baby goods, wipes,lotions,toys etc as a gift, I dislike my brothers partner very much, one thing she said to her newborn at the hospital right in front of my face which was very upsetting and rude, is 'your aunty thought she was going to be a mummy first' I had a miscarriage going back when I was 20, I could not believe she said this, but I tried not letting it affect me too much! Mum and I always would visit my brother before he had the baby and still continued to after the baby was born... mum would buy small gifts here and there, and even for my brothers birthday, but when mums birthday came along and mothers day she gets no phone call and no gift.. where as my dad gets a gift and card from my nephew on fathers day saying to grandpa, I felt so sorry for my mum, dad didnt even visit at the hospital and he is recieveing things saying grandpa, and best grandpa in the world an my mum gets nothing she felt left out and unwelcomed, my brother and his partner is hiring a hall for my nephews birthday and my mum isnt even getting invited, all due to the fact that I think my brother hasnt forgave mum for the divorce my parents had 11 years ago but see they can take from my mum but cant show any compassion or give a little in return, 11 years ago my brother is much older than me and I feel like telling him to grow up and start being mature I mean you only ever have one mum right? she feels she is never going to know her first grandchild.
2 responses
@beverly1 (1128)
• United States
19 Jun 08
im so sorry about it he should grow up thats mean. he got relly he only got one mom that should mean wourld to him to have a great mom like your to buy the babby alot of stuff i would be thanksful if that was me. they should leve her out they should leat say thanks you for the babby gifts. if i was i would talk to him and tell him how you feel about it and start treat your mom like gold for doing that stuff for them. i hope they change your mom dont need this. your mom seem she sweet heart. i know my mom she is i do anything for her and my brother too and sister too. he got relly she wornt be around forever. they should alot time with her as they can. i hope they turn for goodness. tell your mom she got you she not alone. just go talk to him and tell how your mom feels to see how it work out i hope it does. good luck you need it
@MySTiQue23 (113)
• Australia
19 Jun 08
thats right beverly1, he only has one mum, I really love my mum and am always there for her when she needs me, always!! an she is always there for me we have a very close relationship she is very sweet lovable person and does not deserve this. Sometimes she pretends that it doesnt bother her, like she'll say 'oh well if he wants to be like that I wont call him anymore' but I can see in her eyes she's hurting from it, an I dont think mum should have to make all the effort as she really has done nothing majorly wrong, like 'Bertman410' mentioned not every relationship lasts forever a lot of people go through divorce! and yes our parents and family arent always going to be there we all need to apreciate and treasure the time we have with them! and be thankful, if it wasnt for our parents we would not be around! Thankyou so much for your reply
@Bertman410 (302)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I think that it would be a good idea to talk to him to see whats up. My parents are divorced and I don't blame either one of them. I know it can be hard on kids when their parents split because they think their parents will stay together forever but in fact most pepole don't stay together forever. If he's older than you then I'm sure he should know people don't stay together forever. I mom is a very important person in everyones life. And it will be harder for your brother to have to tell his child why they can't see their grandma than it would be to just let go of whatever is bothering him. And it my not even be him it could be his girlfriend. If I was you I would talk to him and let him know how it's making your mom feel and you feel.
@MySTiQue23 (113)
• Australia
19 Jun 08
thankyou for your reply Bertman410,,Ive spoken to him before and so has dad, but see my brother is very strange, he didnt speak to mum for years and both dad and I were telling him you only have one mum you have to respect her and appreciate her! and just forget about the past, the past is the past you cant change that!, I was only 12 when my parents divorced and he was 25 I couldnt concentrate at school and left school early but I dont go blaming my parents for my education loss, well eventually he started talking to her but not properly he said to her that she can come around and visit anytime, then he goes behind her back and tells dad that she only started visiting once the baby was born I dont know why he needed to go lie like that? my brother never visited mum unless dinner was involed then he'd be around straight away just to eat! I really hate to say this about my brother but I find him quite selfish!! why should my nephew miss out on a relationship with his grandma just because my brother is too stubborn to forget the past, he needs to stop being childish and you're right he just needs to let go, if he keeps this up I know he will have a lot of regret in the future.
