Shared birthday....

Shame on her.He is a baby for heavens sake. A blessing to all. HE didn't steal her birthday. He didn't choose when to be born. How terribly immature. Someone should remind her that her grandson is a gift. My grandmother(maternal) and I were born a day apart. She on the 3rd, me on the 4th. We always celebrated together. 1 party for the both of us. We always looked forward to it. Some years we celebrated on her day, sometimes on mine, but always together. Guess I was lucky. She passed after my 21st birthday.I still miss her on my birthday. My advice, focus on your baby. Let her deal with her feelings on the matter. She is supposed to be grown up. Perhaps mention this to daddy.If a compromise cannot be met make a seperate party for your son. He will only be a child for so long.

My youngest son also shares his paternal grandma's birthday and she is over the moon. He was born 11 mins before midnight. Personally I think birthdays after the age of 21 are no big deal but to her it's a big deal. If it makes her happy I don't mind but I also want his first birthday to be all about him. Although she lives on another continent I think she might try and come over for it which I'd rather didn't happen although I dont want to be petty. I can identify with your situation.

You mother in law is being childish in this kinda situation.She should not have said that,but should be happy that her grandson had the same birthday with her.She's being selfish as if that day is only for her birthday. Since your son is still young,i don't think he would felt jeolous with his grandmother.To deal with it,i think you must not say anything negative when she bring up the matters again.

have a different birthday celebration for your son and don't invite the grandmother. you and your son don't ahve to put up with a grandmother like this.

first of welcome to mylot secondaly i wanna say that its nothing bad in sharing birthday ... but some poeple dont like to sahre their personal enjoyments .. may be your mother in law is one of them ... or sometime older poeple become possesive in nature ... it is to be for anything and she might think that as your son comes and have same day birthday might her charm of the day will get dimnish ... you can do one thing if you want .. you can celebrate her birthday as well your sons birthday at the same time same palce but keeping in this mind having different cakes for both .. and might both cakes are not comparable ..means it doesnt look one is better than others .. or may you can ask your mother in law for her choice of cake ... secondly awhen you call poeple told then that you celebrating two birthdays same time .... and at the time of birthday celebration give gift to you mother in lawa and also let your son too give some gift .... i think that will change her possesive ness and by the time she wont tell such things ... hope this will help you

How ironic! My grandmother said the exact same thing when one of her great grandkids was born on her birthday! I just chalked it up to senility setting in...lol

I have heard that sort of comment from a child, but not from an adult! When my daughter was born my nephew complained she had "stolen" his birthday, as the two have the same birthday, Oct 8th!

My son and my father share a birthday. They both think that it is pretty neat. His grandmother sound pretty immature and selfish wanting to keep her birthday all to herself.

micheleeeee I somehow think you misunderstood his paternal grandmother as I think that was just a joking comment not a complaint. I would not think that your son would be upset in that you and his paternal grandmother do not' always have a double birthday party do you? If you celebrate your sons birthday in your own home why he should feel really special.

I am sure she was just joking, I say that when people have the same birthday as me and I mean nothing by it, it is no more than a joke. As she didn't say it to you, you do not know the tone of her voice and the context it was said in, so don't bother yourself about it.

I don't think it's right what she is thinking. It wasn't his fault he happend to be born on her birthday. She should feel special that he has the same birthday as her. I would simply say you should be happy your a grandmother and share a birthday with your grandson. I hope she has a change of heart for I would be happy if this was happening to me. Anyway I hope your son has a good birthday and may it be special with or with out her to celebrate it together with him good luck and take care.

Grandma, needs to grow up. If she is not honored that her grandson was born on the same day as she, she needs to stop making comments. The poor kid will eventually think that he had done something wrong. My brother and mother were born on the same day, My niece and her daughter were born on the same day. I think that is really cool. Tell grandma, that she has celebrated x amount of years on this day, now let's focus on the little one, who has many many birthdays to come. She's had her time in the limelight, now it is time for the little one. Happy birthday to him, my birthday is next month as well.

i would like to share the same b-day as my grandma

There's nothing wrong with sharing a birthday. Your grandmother is acting a bit childish about this. Your son can not help being born on same day as her. You do need to keep it special to your son and if grandmother says something then you should tell her to stop acting like a child.

Hi, Micheleeeee. Welcome to myLot. Maybe since you are getting this second hand you might not be getting the whole story. It seems like a grandmother would be thrilled to share a birthday with a grandchild. I think I would just plan to always send her a cute card from your son on their birthday and do what you can to make it a very fun thing for your son. I shared a birthday with an aunt and we loved it. We called each other birthday twins and made it very fun.

what is wrong to share the same birthday, i never ever feel something wrong about it, i have share my birthday to all my family, i did it before with my brother and i did it also with my nephew, the very best thing me, my brother and my two nephew have done it together, and the best thing is we did enjoy it very much. i am not to worry about the present, i will rather let my nephew take it cause the biggest present i got is my family has there together join the joys. so if you want it fair make it everyone is on win/win condition. i don't know how to tell you but i think you will handle it now, why need to greedy about something goods.

I think that's kind of lame that grandma is making those comments. Like your son could help it. Grandma should be thrilled that her grandson shares the same birthday. When grandma makes a comment like that I would just say something like, "Wasn't that the best birthday present you could ever have wished for?" (Meaning your son of course). I don't think your son will ever feel like second fiddle, because as a parent you will always make his birthday special for him.

i think his grandma should be proud that his grandson is born on her birthday, it's lame that she makes those comments and it makes her sound self-centered. i think that you should tell your son the good qualities of his grandma and how great it is that he shares his birthday with her