looking to their eyes..

@chechuva (1275)
Philippines
June 19, 2008 9:27am CST
Is it difficult for you to look into someone's eyes when you are talking to them? at times i get conscious to other people when i talk to them. but i know it is important to do an eye to eye contact to the person we are talking to show sincerity and confidence! how about you, do you manage to look at them at their eyes?
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@nupats (3564)
• India
19 Jun 08
i always prefer having an eye contact with the person i m talking to...it shows tht u r confident abt wt u r saying..it also means tht u r listning to what the other person is saying..good day dear
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@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
yes it really does show confidence to the person who is talking.. and also sincerity..
@Tuffts (18)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Usually people that are uncomfortable will avoid looking you directly in eye. Did you know in some countries that looking people in the eye shows a lack of respect. Usually I begin with minimal eye contact, and eventually the person becomes accustomed to it. I've noticed the lack of eye contact alot, but it usually means they're uncomfortable or nervous- unless they're attracted you... Then there's alot of eye contact!
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@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
yes i know there are some people believes that doing an eye contact shows disrespect to them.. like asian-americans.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
i always have eye to eye conversation with my husband, he teacher me how to handle it because he dont want me to talk to him, not focusing me eyes to him.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
Yes, when I talk with someone I always make it a point to look at the eyes because that is the polite way to do it I believe. It gives the impression on the people that you are sincere and truthful with what you are saying. Do not avoid eye contact! It's good to look at the eyes of people because it is the window to one's soul.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
19 Jun 08
For me yes I like to look at thier eyes when I am talking to people becouse eyes some times say things we dont say it in our lips the, and eyes can tell u the person who talking with is laying or not, eyes is so good to do that, yes some people maybe shy to look at eyes when talking, anyway my answer for ur question is yes
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• India
19 Jun 08
Its very important to see in the other person's eyes when you're talking about an important aspect or anything to get their attention. I maintain a good contact with the other person while I'm talking to show my Confidence levels. Its not quite important to have a eye contact while you're kidding, flirting or playing jokes or setires.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I was not comfortable when I was younger and makes me always divert my eyes when I am talking....I was extremely shy before...But, now I managed to have an eye-to-eye contact since it is very important!
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• United States
16 Sep 08
I used to not be able to look anybody in the eyes at all. I can see what people are thinking when I look at them and I figured they could see my thoughts just as easily. I did a few courses in Scientology a long time ago though and they had you do these 'drills'. The first one was where you sat in a chair in front of another person with your eyes closed until you felt comfortable enough to open your eyes and look at them. Once you opened your eyes you would have to sit there for hours just looking at the other person. After that I never had much trouble with it anymore. Maybe you have a friend you could practice this with? Whenever my kids were fighting with each other I never punished them or anything, I just made them sit in chairs looking at each other. They weren't allowed to talk and if they did they got more time added to how long they had to sit there just looking at each other, hehehe.
@Elixiress (3878)
19 Jun 08
I look like I am looking at someone's eyes, when I am actually looking at their eyebrows or something. I cannot look someone directly in the eye, because looking at people's eyes make my eyes water, especially if they are ill and have watery eyes. So as long as they think I have eye contact then that is good enough for me.
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• Philippines
12 Sep 08
surprisingly, its not. I make it a point I look someone in the eyes when engaged in a conversation. Although I must admit they find it hard doing the same...
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I didn't when I was younger because I was so shy, but now I always look people in the eyes when I speak to them or when I'm listening to them. It is important to look at people when communicating with them. It lets them know that you are really listening, or really mean what you are saying. It all has to do with confidence.
@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 08
Well, i often look people in their eyes when talking. When talking face to face, i will focus on their eyes. I don't know why but i'm just used to it. You can see what they really feel when you look into their eyes, scare? nervous? lying? sad? happy? confident? You can see that from the eyes, eyes won't lie.