He had to learn the HARD way!
By mommy7
@mommy7 (84)
United States
June 19, 2008 2:42pm CST
How about my 17 year old decided that he was too grown to go by rules anymore, and felt the need to move out and live with anyother family thinking that they would have his back more than we would or take care of him better than we would. What nerve! Anyway, he left and found out that it wasn't going to be as easy as he thought it was going to be. No one to cook for him, and this nut left here, where he had his own room, with a king sized bed, mini fridge, big screen tv, stereo and everything. He had a mini apartment, but he thought he would have it better someplace. It's a shame that he had to go through all kinds of unnecessary bad things to come the conclusion that he was wrong. I don't what is in the water that is making these teenagers lose their minds, I know mine sure did. But now he knows what he had because he doesn't have it anymore.
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@cobracar (142)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Most family structures are completely lacking the tough love which is making teens think they rule the world. I do not know your specific situation and am not commenting directly on it, but parents these days need to take more action and responisbility on themselves. Its their job to raise the child the correct way. Instead of just "talking" to the kid actions need to be taken. Using the above simply as an example or scenario, that child shouldnt have had all those things in his room if he was acting up. Hopefully things change. fast.
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@mommy7 (84)
• United States
20 Jun 08
thanks for your response. my husband and i do take alot of responsibility for our sons actions. it didn't start out like this. he was doing really good, grades were okay, he was on the football team and everything, but one day he just started going down hill and we didn't know why. but we did find out about some new friends that he started hanging out with. so from then on, we starting putting more restrictions on him, kept a closer eye on and the company he kept. i have always been the type to stay in my kids business. maybe that was the problem. maybe he felt like he didn't have enough freedom so he started sneaking and doing things and being people that he shouldn't have been with. right now, he just seems to think that he is invincible. he's not afraid of being in trouble, or grounded or anything. we love him dearly, but we can only do so much to try and keep from trouble. But again, thanks for your comment.
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@cobracar (142)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I completely understand. As I said, I wasnt meaning that to be directed at you in a way saying youve done anything wrong. There are so many circumstances and unknowns in specific situations such as your own. From what you've said youve done all you can, and taking responsibility is a huge thing to do. Like you said in your title, some kids do just have to learn the hard way.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 08
teens always think their parents are horrible compared to all
others and theyare right at the age where they want to be grown
up yet are lacking in responsibilty to do so. a mixed up age
full on angst and one that drives parents batty.just remember they'will outgrow this and actually listen to reasson by the time
'they are twenty.then mom and dad will look really smart. lol.
