How did you get out of a abusive relationship?
@keelymcilwain (797)
Canada
June 19, 2008 2:46pm CST
I have luckily and not so luckily have been in a abusive relationship in my past. I'm saying luckily because I'm glad it has happened early in my life and I was able to get away from it before it turned bad. I was 20 when I left the guy and I had been with him for 4 years. It took him stealing my car and writing it off before I seen the light that I needed to leave him. Luckily again he was arrested and jailed for his crime so I never actually had the chance to break up with him. I'm sure he regrets it now but I sure don't. I've come to realize my life and safety is more important. Over the last 2 years I have learned a lot about men in general and have met some of the greatest people that I would have never have thought or been able to meet if I was still stuck in that rut. I am so happy to be away from it and living such a great life now. I would have never made it to college or finish my grade 12. I would most likely still be working for part time wages, living in a crappy house, starving and bumming for money. But now I'm glad to say I live on my own sorta I can afford my bills, I'm almost done college, and I'm happy. So I'm wondering what anyone else has done to get away from a abusive relationship and how your doing now. It feels good to me to talk about things like this and have comments on it to up my self a steam knowing others believe in what I did and still support me through my bad choices and mistakes I made early on in life.
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@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I have been though this. Mine was worse. I think god was watching over me. I was held in my apartment for 72 hours. I was raped and beaten. I did not even reconize my self. Luckly my children were at there dad's. It took the cops three weeks to fined him and lock him up and the first thing he did when he got out was fined me. He then took me for six months and it was hell. I finally got away and they kept me in a safe house. when everything was said and done. he got three years of probation. unreal! Now I am thankful I am alive. I enjoy every day of my live. I stay away from any men that show any red flags! You should be proud of yourself for getting out! It takes alot of courage.
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@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
19 Jun 08
I don't think I would have made it out of your situation alive. I would have givin up for sure. You are very strong and I'm glad there are others I can share my feelings and maybe make a difference with someone else's life. Stay strong!
@Punski (13)
• Canada
20 Jun 08
wow, I'm very sorry to hear that, I'm very happy that you made it out alive as i defintely wouldn't, You are very strong to go through something like that, i wouldn't be able to go through that. I don't know i think i read about something like this on the news. Do you live in montreal?
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Well, luckily for me, it has been a long time ago, since I have been abused by any man, and main thing is, only one of them as far as I know has ever served any time from doing so. I used to be the type who chose the wrong type of men because of being severely abused while growing up. Some of the men that I dated were quite abusive especially sexually. I even had to file Restraining order on two of them. Personally since then I have learned a lot, and am Married to a wonderful man now who is very understanding. It has been a long haul, but I feel I am better now because of them as well.
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@knight_rlc26 (362)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
i am glad for you.. atleast you have a strong faith to forget that and begin with your new life... For, i had been experienced also this kind of situation... It was not easy because it is my fault also. I tolerated those abusive situations because i love that person. Until, time came that i finally realized that i have to correct the situation and start rejecting things that i think abusive. Now, i am leaving in a happy life without worries... I have venture new things and experiences that i missed when i focused myself to that person.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
Never been to an abusive relationship like yours at all. I am glad you have gotten out of it in the nick of time. Sometimes these kinds of learning in life are the ones that strengthen you spirit and outlook in life. I guess all you have to do is never return to the path you were once with. Sometimes this kinds of lessons are the ones that are much better than the education we get from schools. Treasure it and live the life that wanted to follow.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
20 Jun 08
wow...You've been tough for that experience! I've never been in a bad pr abusive relationship but I got friends before who experienced the same. It took several years before they realize they have to let it go! I admire girls who handle this situation successfully and bravely, I know it's not easy but I am also proud to my friends who are now like you happy with their new relationship!
@Shelley121 (217)
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20 Jun 08
I was in an abusive relationship jst over 4 years ago and I stuck with it for 3 years and the reason why I stuck around was because I had one moved away from family to be with him and I didnt want them to think badly of me as they told me it was not a good idea and the second was because I fell pregnant with my daughter and he would use this aginst me, he would say he wold take her away and all sorts.
The relationship had made me so scared and weak that I just stuck with it, however it was only when my daughter started to get older and I then noticed him taking things out on her that I knew I had to get out of it, I was not sure how to do it however I had a very loyal friend that said they would help me. So one day I told him I was leaving and I got all the usual comments about taking my daughter away and I just thought threw it. I have been without him now for 3 years and it is the best thing i ever done, he is getting married to someone else and I have also moved on with someone else.
People never realise how hard it is to get out, I always used to tell people in this situation to just leave how hard could it be??????? My god I now know the truth.
Good luck for your future and well done for getting out you should be proud as it does take strength
