Do as I say or do as I do?

i really try do do as i tell my children. sometimes it's hard and we slip up, but usually we tried to lead by example. so far they are pretty good kids and i hope that they stay that way. my parents did pretty good with us so i'm hoping whatever they did rubbed off on me.

I may not be a parent yet, but i will prefer my kids to be a, do as i do, person.. Because i will want them to know how emotion can affect them in different situation and know how to handle it.. ANd i wun want to tell them wat to do because they wun be able to learn as well and control themselves well.. IN all, i want them to learn thru the hard way, experience ererything themselves and picking themselves up, be strong ^_^

Children of today are no longer the same as children of yesteryears. They will as children listen to us but in return they need to be listened to,to be understood, to be valued. Children do need rules, limits and correction. We parents build our system around them rather than trying to build them into our system.

Hi vicneedscoffee, certainly, do as I do is the best way, we must lead by example. I congratulate you on adopting this attitude with your daughter. Blessings.

I try for both! Sometimes kids have to listen and not every manner that an adult speaks to a child is acceptable for a child to speak back to the parent. But i do try to model everything I tell my children to do.

I thinkthat I always tried to be a do as I do type parent and I mostly succeeded too.maybe I made some errors but as a whole my son had turned out to be'a fine man and he is now fifty. lol.

I am a do as I say parent..... I should be the other way around of course. But I am not. Like, I smoke, and I use the " adults can do what they want". Or with coffee, my oldest girl (5) she wants to drink coffe with me and daddy, but I tell her that she can't have any, then she says well you are drinking it, so I say well parents can drink coffee but kids can't. Now my girls have gotten the hang of saying, " she is the moma and she says so. " as I don't lead by example, they still know there are things adults do and kids cant.......

I tried to raise my children by example. There are times however when it is acceptable for an adult to do something that is unacceptable for a child (I am not talking about lying, cheating or stealing) and when we would get into a big debate about why i could watch a r-rated movie (example) and they could not, after awhile i would indeed stoop to "because i said and i am the MAMA!

Yes I am a do as I say type parent, even though I try to be an example. Basically my point is that I am the adult and there are certain things that seperate us from the kids. In others words regardless of what I do, whether its good or bad, as an adult I have the opportunity to decide whether or not I want to do it. As my child you don't have a choice, if I ask you to do it then its a done deal no negotiations. When you are an adult you will be privelaged with the same choices.

I tend to lead by example with my children. My father's favorite saying used to be "Do as I say, not as I do". However, I think that because of that, I tried everything he did, made the same mistakes that he did and never really listened to most of his tales and stories, let alone learned the moral or value to the story. I do not ask my children to do chores that I won't do right beside them, or tell them they can't do something while I sit and do it. If an occasion arises where I am doing things I really shouldn't be, such as having a drink with a friend, I make sure that I am at home without plans to go anywhere. My husband and I are also quite open with our children though. We do not hide the lessons of life because they are to young to learn them. It has resulted in a more open relationship, and thankfully, my children are not afraid to talk to me about anything.

Mine are still young (1 and 3), but I am trying to do the do as I say raising, because if I slip up somewhere I dont want them to think that its ok, but at the same time I am trying to be the best role model that I can for my boys and also trying to lead my example. so I guess I could say that I am trying to do a little of both.