would you lie about yourself?
By iamnes
@iamnes (324)
Philippines
June 20, 2008 3:09pm CST
i just finished watching a show where the father lied to his daughter, supposedly "to protect her". but it also turned out that he was just scared that his daughter might hate him for committing a mistake (he had a son with another woman while working abroad, he left that other woman and he brought his son back with him; he lied to his daughter telling her that this kid (his son) is an orphan and he decided to adopt him. by the way, his son cannot speak and understand english that's why he (son) cannot tell the daughter that he is really his son. the daughter believed the lie his father told her.
the father appeared to her as a very responsible, faithful and loving man. her mother left them after learning about the truth and she never told her daughter about the infidelity and the other kid (son). so the daughter thought that her mother was the evil one because she completely left her. she hated her mother for that. she love her father for sticking with their family despite her mother's absence.
the father continued with his lies to her daughter. his former wife called him selfish; she said the main reason that he is lying to their daughter is not to protect her but to cover his own mistakes and maintain a good reputation with her.
if you are in a similar situation or if you are the father in that situation, would you also lie to your kids?
do you agree with the father that he is just protecting her daughter from being hurt or do you think he is protecting himself and his reputation?
4 responses
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I honestly don't know what I'd do. Apparently he wasn't secure enough to tell her the truth. Maybe he thought she would overreact. I think he may have made it worse by keeping the secret to himself. But then again, I don't know his daughter's personality. I'm sure he's was paranoid up until she had finally found out.
@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Hi iamnes, I really cannot imagine this situation, it is so strange for me because I never could do something like this. But anyway, I never lie about me. In my country we have a old proverb that say "the lie have short legs" it means that the lie don't go so long without be discovered. And after it can become worst. I prefer to tell always the true.
@iamnes (324)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
it's the first time i heard about this proverb. thanks for sharing! what i usually hear is "the truth shall always find its way out", maybe it somehow has a similar meaning. it's really scary to be in this kind of serious situation and having to lie about it, it just means that you have to have so much guts to be able to do this. it's hard to carry something like this everyday.
thanks teka44!
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
24 Jun 08
I could never lie about myself to someone for any reason. I think the best way to form a good relationship with anyone is to be open and honest with them no matter what.
@snowy22315 (180805)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I cant really imagine being in that situation so the anwer is I dont know what I would do. i'm usually pretty honest.
