Do you think it's possible to respond to every one of your friend's discussions?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 20, 2008 4:56pm CST
What's your criteria for responding to a discussion.
How do you manage so many friend discussions, when you have a large
group of MyLot friends? How do you decide which discussions
get responded to and which one's you'll skip?
Since joining Mylot I've found many friends and I try
to respond to as many MyLot friend discussions as possible.
Whenever a friend starts a discussion, I try to be the first
one there. I don't always make it! LOL!
Sometimes I can't get around to all the new discussions
daily, but I do eventually.
Some people have suggested that I cut off some of my
friends, so that I can focus on just ten or fifteen, but
somehow that doesn't seem fair to me.
I would hate for someone to cut me off, so I don't choose
that path.
I have so many MyLot friends, so it might
take me a bit of time to get around to them all, but
evenutally I do!
Usually I pick ten friends everyday and respond to
those friends discussions and then the next day, I pick ten more.
Sometimes I just pick discussions randomly from
my friends discussion list. Or, choose discussions off the
hot topics list. Those are usually lots of fun.
Even if I don't know what to say at a friend's
discussion, I try to lend an ear and offer words
of comfort.
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46 responses
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I do the email thing so I can read all my friends discussions. I dont always respond to them all as sometimes I just have nothing to say on the subject. I will not delete friends I dont see why I should. No ones complaining that I dont respond to enough of their discussions.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
That's a good thing.
Those email notifications are one of the best
ways to find new friend discussions.
Just the other day, I finally got mine fixed.
Now I have to remember to login to my Yahoo
(Mylot) email box and pick everything up daily! LOL!
Thanks for dropping by.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
P.S. I'm always happy to talk with you when you
drop by. You're a really happy and positive
voice on MyLot. That's rare to see.
Be well!
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
22 Jun 08
Well I dont see what being negative will get you it changes nothing. But I wasnt always this way my hubby has calmed me down alot.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
20 Jun 08
That is a good idea. I have gotten into the habit of responding to the friends from the emails I get from mylot first. After that I go to mylot and go to my friends list or I search for articles from a subject that I want to respond to like a new show that I just started liking on televison or a movie that I have just recently seen.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
It's been ages since I read a really good book
that didn't involve Dora the Explorer! LOL!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I love talking about movies and TV too!
It's just so nice to have movies and TV in common
with others, especially for my favorite shows.
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@ferdzNK (3211)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
If its in my favorite interest I would by all means, but most of the time I cannot relate to them. I would at least try so hard to respond one of theirs in a day. I have accumulated a large number of notifications that I have categorized to: I have to, I will, I might and I can't(which are deleted) that I think it is very impossible for me to finish.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I try to at least look at a discussion that my friend has started even though I know that the friend does not know I have looked at it. I also try to respond to everyone, but I just can't seem to devise a system that is fair. I will often rate responses that my friend's make to me or other people, so I do help with the star rating. I've rated you if I haven't responded, and I know that it helps me feel a little bit better.
My fiance and I started a competition with a friend of ours here and I feel as if we've both left him in the dust. He hasn't been on for a week, or i'd respond to him and message him to tell him we mean no hard feelings. I'm competitive, my fiance's competitive but we tried slowing down.
I got off topic a little, opps
... Long story short, I see you and I rate you, as well as all the other people I don't respond to regularly.
... Long story short, I see you and I rate you, as well as all the other people I don't respond to regularly.@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Hey you! Thanks for saying so.
I do appreciate the sentiment.
Drop by anytime and we'll talk some more.
Be well.
Nice chatting with you.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Well I am glad that you try to take the time out to look at ten people's discussions and respond to each. I am sure that it brings a smile to their faces. It brings a smile to mine when I see a few more responses to my discussions, even some of the one's that I am not proud of 
. Some of my recent one's have been that way, but they are mostly rant discussions that I try to incorporate in and ask questions for.
Thanks for responding to me, I do enjoy reading your questions as they are always so informative and you always have something nice to say. Have a Great day.
. Some of my recent one's have been that way, but they are mostly rant discussions that I try to incorporate in and ask questions for.
Thanks for responding to me, I do enjoy reading your questions as they are always so informative and you always have something nice to say. Have a Great day.1 person likes this
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I know what you mean.
I'm always missing some of the
key discussions too.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
4 Jul 08
That's fine!
You do what you can.
Respond to the discussions
that you like.
It's always nice when you respond to
one of my discussions.
And I do appreciate it.
Be well.
@pitstop (13789)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
I read a lot of their discussions especially stuff that interests me. What I read I rate. I respond only if I feel like I can contribute something to the discussion.
I don't think you are expected to respond to every discussion!
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 Jun 08
I usually answer through the email notifications and if the discussion interests me then I post a response. If not then I delete and move on. Since I haven't been online much I turned off the email notifications and left a select few on. I still haven't been able to catch up so I think I might just turn them all off and when I do come online, go through the 'discussions my friends started' and go from there. I am not going to get to every discussion but that's ok. I do what I can when I have the time to do it.
@Annie2 (594)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I don't have many friends in mylot because I haven't done that much work in mylot. My hectic life keeps me from getting into it very much. I just drop in when I can. Sometimes more than others. I do enjoy reponses to my responses. It always surprises me when I get one.
Question: Are you really a beauty queen?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
That's the first time anyone has actually asked
me that question in the entire year I've been here!
How ironic is that? Or maybe funny.
I'm more of a diva or beauty queen at heart.
Now reformed but once upon a time, spoiled and pampered princess beauty queen.
That's me! I'm a mommy now.
All my money goes into feeding my little kiddo.
She's worth it though. I don't miss all the beauty doo-dads!
Be well.
Thanks for your responses.
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
21 Jun 08
It's possible if you have the time. Well maybe time in general isn't necessary, just ambition. I do pay attention to the e-mails that were sent to me. I've tried to respond to friends discussions, but I sense that I need to try harder. I like the comfort posts because I can answer in the most sincerest way.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I spend about three hours at it. So, definitely I do put in the time.
But other demands of life prevail. I am happy to be able to chat online
with friends. It's really nice.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
for me, it's not, simply because some discussions I don't know what to say or that I cant relate. It's kinda hard to respond to something that i have no knowledge about like topics about computers or places i haven't visited yet or just recently about who will win in your (US) presidential elections. It may be unfair to some of those who are in my friends list, but what can i do? It isnt like me to pretend I know what they are talking about. So, I just pick those that I can relate with. In that case, I would have plenty of things to say and share. So, to those who doesn't receive any post from me, please bear with me. It doesn't mean that I am not interested with your topics. But will try to respond if I have anything to share..
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
4 Jul 08
That is a brilliant explanation for it!
I have the same feelings at times.
Some of my friends know so much about online
games and fantasy role playing and computers
and such. But I don't know any of that.
And when a friend posts a discussion in that
area, I sit there with my mouth open trying
to figure out what to say.
I try to go back through the discussions that
a friend has started over the past year
and respond to any that make sense to me.
That way I have an infinite variety of
discussions for that one person.
They don't usually miss me at the few new
discussions that I am forced to skip.
I suppose it's just easier for me to
answer an older discussion about a topic
I know than to make a fool of myself
on a new discussion talking about an
unfamiliar area!
Thanks for your insight into the situation.
I was afraid that no one would understand
the dilemma that I face at times!
Be well.
Your friend
BeautyQueen
@ramyashreesk (1021)
• India
21 Jun 08
Hey beautyqueen no i find it very diificult to respond to the discussions of all my friends on mylot. I feel bad about this. More over am not soo fast in typing, thats my drawback.
Anyways happy posting!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I do too!
Today I was looking for friend discussions to respond to
and had to search high and low.
Actually I had to make new friends today just to have
someone to respond to.
LOL!
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
I don't think it is possible to respond to every one of your friend's discussions, especially that you have lots of friends.
Your idea of picking 10 friends first might work but after you have responded to the second set, the first set have new discussions started and you cannot keep track really. Well, I guess you may some ways to do that.
I know, maybe turning the email notification on all of your friends on will be a key to respond to all of them. But still, they may have discussions that you have no idea about, so you still have to skip some of it.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I don't think that you can. I only answer ones that I can contribute something to.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
How I wish I can respond to all. Right now I have about 1000 posts to comment and respond but due to limited time I got no time. In fact sometimes I wanted to open somethings for discussion but really I got no time. I hope I can answer them all. If I got the time I just comment on things that interest me or what I am interested to. On topics that I am not really interested I just let it go. But even those topics not from my friend and I am interested I comment on them. Its the time I am in need of.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
4 Jul 08
BEAUTYQUEEN I only have 27 friends and I try to respond to as many as possible for the amount of time I have to spend here.There is alot of them that dont start discussions.I start with the first one on my friends sortie and go down unless I dont have anything to add. You have a wonderful July 4th.
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I answer a discussion based on whether or not I feel that I have something valuable to contribute, whether that discussion is started by a friend or by someone else.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Jun 08
good for you. i'm sure you have alot more friends than i do. i haven't been on mylot very long but if i know someting about what they are asking i answer the if not i don't.
@Mainframeguy (200)
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4 Jul 08
It's very easy - just have one friend then you can do it... the more friends the less possible.... Or have no friends maybe....
It is a meaningless question you asked - since no one will have the same number of friends.
