Scared; my best friend might be more than a friend?

I know how you feel. My best friend and I are now boyfriend/girlfriend and living together! At first I thought we just got along well and I was attracted to it and then one day we both realized it...We were friends for 3 years before we even kissed. I say be his friend, dont talk bad about is girl bc she probaly wont be around too long if the feelings are mutual! Hang in there and live your life because things that are meant to be all work out the way there are suppose too! Wish you both a great friendship and real love!

Hi jojuana, Basically, like most women, you're nuts! Were I in your shoes (which I'm not, so this is just hypothetical) I'd go off and join a Nunnery so as to stop these wicked, evil, naughty thoughts that you've been having. Here's something that might be worthwhile to think about. In my experience, from what I've seen in my short life here on Planet Earth, most women don't actually fall in love with the guy, it's the RELATIONSHIP that they are in love with! The guy in the relationship isn't so important as the relationship itself. Not that there's anything wrong with that - it seems to work, families keep getting raised and the world keeps spinning around. So here's what I'd suggest, in my patronizing, male-chauvinistic manner: find another guy to start a relationship with. Then when you and your best friend get together, you can each compare notes about your experiences (and he can get jealous of your boyfriend). Of course, the whole situation is actually a little warped, just like Jerry and Elaine on the Seinfeld series. BUT if the two of you really are meant for each other, then maybe you'll each have to marry someone else in order to realize it. Like I said, IMO most women are nuts! Not that there's anything wrong with that...

it's a difficult situation... falling inlove with your bestfriend who unfortunately is taken. anyway, if i had been in your shoes, i would not try to destroy their relationship. it's natural for you to fall inlove with him. that does not make you a bad person. what makes you bad is when you try to destroy your bestfriend's girlfriend's personality by finding faults about her. you know the saying, if you're meant to be, you're meant to be and if it's not, then let it be. anne

leave it to fate...as soon as he breaks up with his girlfriend, it is a sign that you are meant for each other and you should jump in to be his girlfriend. now, just try to be a supporting friend and see where it will lead. if you show him how much you care about him, maybe he will realize that you are a special friend, start falling in love you, and break off with his girlfriend to be with you..and maybe he will turn out to be the guy you marry...

Hi jojuana!! Wow! A love feeling is once in a lifetime.. Sometimes it fails and sometime it's a happy ending.. For me, I will tell to my best that I'm inlove with him because he's the person involve and he has a right to know. If my bestfriend has a feeling also. Wow that very good. But ofcourse I will effect that he hadn't so that the pain is not that really hurt me a lot. If he don't like us to be more than friends it doesn't mean that it's all ended. The reasom why he don't like is he don't want me to lose in his life because I'm important in different things. He wants me to be in his life forever. Jojuana I just think of some things that your bestfriend might react of. This is what all I've got for you! So go for it! Atleast you try or regret it for the rest of your lives. Goddluck!

I think you shuld pull him aside an just ask him questions like has he ever had feelings for any of his lady friends an to tell you who and also jus let him know you have feelings for him without telling him its him like jus tell you've got feelings for one of your friends and see how he responds to it

its really a pretty sh*tty thing to do to someone you claim to care about.. if you really cared you wouldnt take advantage of his high oppinion of you to manipulate and control his actions.

Well first you have to find out if he feels the same. You said he has a girlfriend, so maybe it's not wise to get in between that. You don't want to be labeled as 'the one who ruined my relationship', do you? And I can see why you would find faults in her. Jealousy may not be the best shade to sport. It might push him away.

This has happened to me before.. (liking a best friend) . The best thing you can possibly do, is just straight tell them how you feel. just be prepared for any answer. Sometimes these things work out, and other times not so much . Before telling him though, sit down and weigh out all the factors. Think about how you REALLY feel inside. If you have the Brother feelings.. or if you have the "boyfriend" feelings. If you feel you love him, then definatley tell him. Approach it carefully, but don't beat around the bush. I wish you the best of luck ! Go get em! :)

Don't make him question his taste in women, because if he has feelings for you, he'll question those too. Support him but don't pounce while he's weak if there is a breakup. Whatever you do, if he seems to be getting serious, you have to let him know that you have deep feelings for him and that if they are not mutual, you want the best for him. Let him know that the way you feel is a direct result of the kind of person he is and that you treasure his friendship.

how long have you been having these feeling it could be a rebound or infatuation it can also mean real love too talk to your fren have a good one to one talk lay everything on the table. jus be honest with everything you will be suprise of the outcome. cheers

Well they say that a good relationship comes through friendship. I myself agree with that. I got married to a girl whose been my friend for seven years. Now we are in our five year marriage and its still going well. Just enjoy each others company whos knows both of you might end up being together forever. LOL!!!

Contemplate deeply on what you are feeling right now...Are you really in love with him or you are just infatuated? What do you think? Does he love his girlfriend? How long have they been together? Know what? Falling for a friend is never been that easy. If I were you, I would just set aside my feelings for my bestfriend. It's so hard to find a best friend and that you might lose him upon continuing what you're feeling for him.

Thats pretty messed up of you. Trying to persuade him, when hes already got a women. Pretty much a relationship wrecker, im not trying to be harsh. But thats what it sounds like.

Having been in that position before and NOT acted on it and told him...If I were in that position again...I'd tell him. I wouldn't just hope he knew again. I regret not telling him to a point but I also am ok with the fact that I didn't because recently He let everyone know he is coming out of the closet and If i had told him I would have been more hurt now rather than being happy for him.

Tell him how you feel because you don't want it to be a what if in your life and always wonder. You never know he may feel the same way as you do .Love is a risk no matter what ,so jump in fearless and tell him .No matter what happenes I wish you the best of luck,

well if you have feeling for a person i think you should tell the person. it is possible that he also has that same feeling and don't want to tell you because of the friendship. clear the air and let him know your heart through your words, who knows it could be the start of a wonderful relationship. Thank you.