I lost nine stones and my husband .

No I haven't. Most people that I know who have lost weight have retained their previous very pleasant personalities despite having to struggle with 30 inch waists of size 10 clothes. My own dear wife has lost some weight recently and we have discovered that she can wear some of our daughter's clothes. I see this as thrifty as we don't need two wardrobes. I'm not entirely sure that they see it that way though. LOL. Unfortunately, should I lose weight too, I won't be able to join them in their sartorial choices. I just don't have the legs for skirts.

Weight loss and weight gain can sometimes really change a person. I have heard of people who loose their husband or wife just because of this, and sometimes it is from one of them not having enough Self Esteem to be able to handle the changes taking place. I find that anytime 2 people are married, it is for better for worse, for richer or poorer, and in sickness and in health. Over the course of time in ones marriage there will be changes. Some of them will not always be like what you wanted or expected, but if you are willing to talk about them, and work them all out, nothing should stand in your way. But then maybe he was intimidated by her gaining so many friends, or she was caught doing things making him angry that caused this. Without enough facts sometimes, it is really hard to tell. But no matter what, this should never be the end. Just something there to learn from, and move on.

I do know one person. He lost so many pounds and he looks very good and sharp. I don't think that all people look good after weight lost. Also, there is a limit on weight lost. Some people can look worst.

HI ruby..wow! That is very sad for their relationship..Maybe she very amaze how and excited to be look gorgeous all the time with her slim figure and fail to do her role as a wife...I haven't known anyone acting like that though I have few friends who lost weight..She used to shop by the time she was fat until the time she lost weight but it's not often and didn't bother the husband!

I don't really know anyone but wanted to ask a silly question. How many pounds is a stone. I watch "You are what you eat" and am so lost most of the time.

I am a larger lady here,ample measurements ,but in my own eyes im still reasonably attractive,well if my partner doesnt like whats on offer then thats up to him,the choice is his.I am not saying that obesity is good for anyone,but a little flesh doesnt hurt either.As we get older our bodies undergo massive changes,and often a mature woman who suddenly loses a lot of weight can look very old and wrinkly,but if she loses it slowly and on a proper calorie controlled diet then she may well be able to lose weight without losing her looks.If my partner were to say well he no longer fancied me after I had lost weight then he would be more than welcome to go find himself another woman,there is no man that is worth worrying about to that extent,the bottom line and it may seem hard,but it is if he loves you he will want to be with you and if he doesnt he doesnt.

good day... Me, I lost 25 pounds about 3 years ago and maintained my weight. I was rather warned by my uncle about my being overweight though I already know the adverse effects of those extra pounds but somehow I couldn't sweat it out until my uncle warned and motivated me. I haven't change in attitude or something but it does feel good to be several pounds lighter. I could walk several miles without gasping for breath. feels good both inside and out.

Yeah. some people are like that. In high school.. I lost a lot of weight.. but I didnt change.

Usually people change for the better because it is unhealthy to be overweight. Being overweight leads to all kinds of health problems, with your heart and other organs as well. The lady in your story seems to probably have had self confidence issues while she was over weight and then became over confident when she lost the weight. I think neither one of the two were truly her, it seems like she is still trying to find out who she is. Who you are will not vary with your weight once you truly find yourself.

All I can say here is that your wife is your wife and your husband is your husband,and if they are big boned well then that it isnt it,you dont just wed someone who is like a stick insect,not all men and women are attracted by stick insects,some like to see a bit of flesh on them.I have no worries re the missus she is well rounded,she loves her food,and thats the way she always has been,cuddly.take that Victoria Beckham,well whats David got to hold on to?a bag of bones,there aint a pick on her,she has a pretty little face,but she needs a bit more covering to my way of thinking.