i badly need an advice...

I understand how you feel. don't worry to much. Most of us go through much like the same ordeal as you are going through. We get stressed and some even get bored. We have different reasons why we work. You've mentioned about your sisters 5 kids. Try asking yourself why are you working and who are you working for. That's a good start for a motivation. Then, once that is established, do not forget to give time for yourself. Plan a vacation if you can. Take your leaves if they're available. Go out with friends and/or spend more time with your grandma. Your still young. You still have quite a lot to experience in the future especially real good ones. Take it a day at a time and always smile. It helps . Have faith in yourself and your family/friends. Give thanks for everything you have either good or bad. Take the latter as blessing in disguise. Lift your spirits up.

Your sister should be paying for her own kids. That's a lot of responsiblity to be putting on you. You didn't choose to create her children, so you shouldn't be forced to financially support them. I can understand you wanting to help, but if you can't or don't want to, tell her so. Draw the line somewhere. Say "this is what I can afford to help you with, you have to come up with the rest". Perhaps if you cut back on what you are giving to her, you can afford not to work so hard, and perhaps find a job that is not so stressful. To help yourself out, get a hobby, something you enjoy doing. Something that relaxes you like cooking, sewing, reading, biking, jogging, swimming... anything you enjoy.

wow! Truly heavy load of responsibility victoria, I wonder where is your sister? or is there any way you can bring your grandma in your house so the kids also can help you taking care of them? I know how tough to support kids' education plus their needs as well as your needs..Why not asking assistance from a relatives to help you take care of your grandma?

U must be thankful to The God that UR so busy that U don't have time to think URself. Work pressure at office is unavoidable but U just think work pressure is due to volume of work or due to pressure from the boss or due to long hour of working. If it is due to volume of work just talk to UR boss for more assistance. If it is due to pressure from the boss then try to change the department/section, if it not possible than work out a plan how to satisfied UR boss.If it is due to long hour of work then try to speed up UR work and finish the work in less time.

I can totally relate to your situation...when I was younger, My elder brother who unfortunately has no permanent job totally relied on me to sustain his family of 8. Well, I did, out of sympathy...but I later learned the hard way that you musn't spoon feed them. You're better off to be firm at your decision to draw the line. You can help them but not to the point of giving them the bigger part of your salary. Tell them you also have plans and that you also have a life to live. You can find a way to tell them this sincerely. if they love and respect you, they will understand and strive to help themselves. You're still young and still have so much ahead of you. Being depresses shouldn't be part of your daily routine...have fun...every problem has a solution.

i admire you for doing all those things for your sister. what is she doing? is she also working? what about her husband? are u the only one who works for your family? i understand your situation coz i'm also a filipina. don't forget that u should also give yourself some time to relax, first thing you should do is to pray! and i always say to all my friends that for whatever problems we should not forget to smile...........i myself doesn't want to look older than my age, i hate wrinkles! keep smiling!