what is the ideal age for women to have children?
By ladykristinn
@ladykristinn (179)
Philippines
June 21, 2008 1:11pm CST
I want to know what is the ideal age to have children. My husband and I have different views about this. I am already 26 years old going to be 27 this year. My husband wants us to have children but I want to have children after 3 years. He said it will be harder for us to conceive. But I am not yet ready to bear a child. I see a child as a constraint for my out of town trips. Based on my observations, bringing up a kid nowadays is very hard. Whatever you do, there is always something wrong.
5 responses
@Fiammetta (45)
•
21 Jun 08
When the time is right for you. I had both my kids in my thirties and might even have another. For me it was ideal as I loved my travel and nightlife before. I don't know if anything prepares you for the joy and shock of children in any case.
Good luck
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I am considering giving in to him because he really loves children. I do too but not as much as he loves them. He is the only one who don't a child in his family. His mom and all his siblings are also requesting me to bear a child. The pressure and all.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
21 Jun 08
There is no ideal age. When you feel ready to make the necessary lifestyle adjustments, that is the ideal time for you. Your husband is right- it can be more difficult to conceive as you get older, but there is no reason to worry too much, you are young. No need to rush- you have plenty of time.
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Yeah, I think he is right about that too. That is why I am considering giving in to him but I just can't see myself yet to be a mother. I love having his nieces and nephews but I can still get irritated with them sometimes. And I can easily return them to their parents and all. If those kids will be my children, I can't even return them to my womb. Whatever they do, they are my children and I can't just dumb them. I might sound harsh but I just want to face the reality.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
23 Jun 08
According to me the ideal age for women to have children is between 27 to 30. It is better if you can conceive with in 3 years, otherwise it will be a problem , many gynecologist suggest this age, if you delay you might have to face different problem , pregnancy after 30 years will be really tough. I think it is right time for you to have a baby, I do agree bringing up a kid is very hard, but God is always there to help us having one kid is not a problem , we can give all the happiness to them .
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Thank you. I am thinking of giving in to his wishes but personally, I am not yet that ready. I am afraid of being pregnant. Maybe this is because when my husband's sister is in labor, I was there with her. I can even hear her screams and I can even picture her reactions when she was in labor. I thought back then I can't possibly bear to have such pain.
@mclendon (308)
• United States
23 Jun 08
It is consider riskier after 35 for sure, but you have time if you are both healthy. You could get a check up and ask your Ob/gyn if you seem fertile and your husband could make sure he is okay and then you will know you have plenty of time.
I had my first at age 28.
Also, one child is easy to travel with; especially when they are little IMO. You could start slow, maybe in a year. We still traveled and went out a lot until we had two children.
