what do you do

You should probably think about whether or not this is a pattern for you. Is this something that happens in all of your relationships? Does it happen at about the same time, either timeline or a certain point in the relationship? Maybe you are just not a person that should be in a relationship. Set her free so she can find a man that wants what she does. Why do you deserve comfort and pleasure when she's committed to you? Put the shoe on the other foot.

Plain and simple its time to move on pending the strings attached. But remember it could be a rough spot and never forget the grass is always greener!

Hi, Good Question. First of all, this means your a healthy man. A man who doesn't look at other women, is sick. As my mother used to say . LOL! Remember you can look, but you eat at home. At home you know what you have, you don't know what you will get. It that worth it? Try and make more comfort and pleasure at home. Remember the way you both were in the beginning? Work on that, try and get it back. Go out to dinner, just the two of you. Try to show more interest to her, and she will show more to you. Good Luck! Take care, Margajoe

I think it is best to end the relationship you are currently in before seeking comfort and pleasure in someone else. It causes a lot more hurt to the one you are with as well as the other person by being dishonest and sneaky. Plus should you ever move on to another real relationship and they know you had been dishonest it causes a lot of trust issues. Just my thoughts anyway from some one who has made the wrong choices in that aspect.

I think you should end the relationship before you hurt yourself or other people. Sometimes it's better to end it that way than to force the issue. Not all relationships work out and that is a fact.

It's one thing to look, and something completely different to cheat. If you are to the point where you would rather be with someone else or "play the field" a bit, you should do the right thing and break it off with your current relationship. It's never fair to the other person to cheat and if you really care about them, you would not want to hurt them.

I think that if one partner is looking ouside of the relationship for comort or pleasure there is something wrong with the relationship, but something even more wrong with the partner who is looking. Before looking one should always try to ix the relationship, and then if that is not possible, they should end the relationship and move on.

The only way is to end the relationship

If you're going to other women for comfort and pleasure then surely that's emotional cheating?! If you feel the need to do that then clearly there is something wrong in your relationship which you're not happy with it. Take a step back and look at your relationship from a third person perspective, as though you are someone else looking in. You should be able to see the bigger picture and it might help you work out what it is you're not happy about.

If you are losing interest in your relationship it is best for you to be honest and let your spouse. Communication is the key in every relationship and sometime it is because of the lack of same the relationship deteriorate and couples think that it is over. After sitting down and having an heart to heart talk the problem is solved and loving starts again. So sit and talk and let her know how you feel.

Talk to your partner first if there is something to be done or to improve if not, just be honest and tell her what is wrong and what you want. You can always end a relationship because it is your right but make sure it is in a nice way.

I'm a woman and I've been married for nearly 30 years ... so I don't know. If you are in a new relationship and not married to the woman, it would be best to be honest and break up with her. If you are married, however, I think it would be a good idea to look at the reasons you are unhappy and see whether they could be put right. Maybe you should both talk to eachother more and see whether you could perhaps spend some special time together doing things you both love. If you look to other women without telling your current woman, you will risk damaging the relationship badly - and it's not good to be dishonest. I hope you can sort things out ... and remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.