when you die, which do you prefer, to be cremated or to be buried?

I'm in a difficult position because I am my husband's second wife. He lost his first wife to cancer several years ago and she is currently buried in a military cemetary 1,000 miles away where we used to live because he's a Vet. His wish is to be buried with her because he expects to go before I do since he's older than I am and has a lot of health problems. He's supposed to check to see if I can also be squeezed in that plot but I doubt that's possible because it's a military cemetary and I really can't see them digging both him and his late wife up so they can deepen the hole. He also mentioned buying two plots next to his family down here and being buried with me next to him but I know him and he would feel guilty leaving his late wife all alone up north. So, as far as I'm concerned, I want to be cremated and put in a nice urn. If it's possible to bury my urn with my husband, fine, but if not, then my children can take possession of it and keep it on a shelf or in a box or...whatever they decide to do with it.

No I don't find this topic uncomfortable at all. Morbid as it may sound, but we'll all go there, so there's nothing wrong talking about it. Anyway, for me, I would prefer to be buried. Why? because that is my Christian belief. Now I hope saying the word christian would not attract or create another religion argument here again. (I'm just sick and tired of people who always want to argue about religion). That is just my belief. If I am to explain further, I might attract yet one of those persons here who loves to argue about beliefs, so I hope you don't mind if I say just that.

My husband and I both discussed this, and when we die we both wish to be cremated, and put in the memory wall at Sunset Villa, a little Danish place not far from where I live.

Hi dierdre. I wish to be cremated after the donation of all my organs. I already tell with my daughter that it is what I want and she knows that. So when I pass away she knows what to do with my body because in this time is only my body not me.

I'd rather be buried, coz i would like it for my love ones to visit my grave side and decorate it nicely with flowers and what ever else they would like to put on it. I'd want my stone to be pink so it would stand out against the rest. and I'd love for people to pass and read what a nice person i was.

I really don't like neither.. i wanna be put in a mausoleum

Hi dierdre, I'd prefer NEITHER cremation or burial. I think I'd much rather be pickled and put on display in a big screw-top jar. With lots of tasty herbs and spices! That way, I could still keep an eye on what's going on around the place. And then I'd also have a good excuse for being a real sour-puss.

I prsonalily do not believe in cremation,so i want to be buried...I do know that alot of people are cremated because it is less expensive ,and some for other reasons,but for mE i prefer burial...

Hi there, I have thought about this before. I must admit that I go back and forth between the two and I have not really made up my mind yet. I would kind of be partial to being buried, but then I would not like the thought of a mistake being made and then being buried alive. That is why I have started thinking about cremation. Hopefully I have a lot of time left to think about this all! cheers,

I'm opting for neither. If my body can help others with Cerebral Palsy that's where its going, otherwise I'm donating it to the FBI for forensic education.

I want cermation. I just think the whole preperation and viewing of the body is so morbid. People say "well it's just to come and pay their respects". I say pay me my respect while im alive and i know it. Any way i plan on paying for it myself so cermation is the way for me.

I will be cremated, if at all possible. The idea of having my insides taken and filled with chemicals, my blood drained, etc. is just too creepy. Then again, the idea being buried in a coffin that's enclosed by a concrete box is pretty horrible, too.

Before, cremation is not known or preferred by most people. But since, things are changing and people are being practical, cremation is getting the same choice by some of the people like burrying. Not to mention it's less expensive compared to burrying. I guess for me, either way will work. But I prefer burrying, because I feel that I get more peace by that. I don't know.. Whichever way, will be fine. =)

certainly to be buried! being cremeted is like sending urself/ur love one to hell! :)

Currently, I prefer to be cremated. Being buried ties the soul to a specific location and then people have to return to a specific location to visit your body. It also costs quite a bit of money to be buried and there have been many conspiracies surrounding the burial industries. Natural disasters can disrupt the final resting place too. There are many modern uses for the ashes of the dearly departed now, so as things stand, I would opt to be cremated at this time.

To be put into a coffin buried with soil. I want the traditional ways to stay.

I want to be cremated. I have always thought that cemetaries were a waste of space they should have reserved them for land. I do like the thought of green cemetaries though. I might would do that.

well for mankind's good...........i will donate my body to the medical schools in which students learn to do surgeries..........

LOL...I feel the same...cremation does remind me of hell, as well. But, the fact of being stuffed in a box doesn't sound that great either. But, in the end, you won't know and it won't matter. So, I am leaving that up to whoever is around when its time for me to go. Sometimes its easier on the loved ones to have you "sitting on their mantle"...and sometimes they rather have you in the cemetery than making them thing you're watching them from beyond while sitting in their home.

i would prefer being buried to being cremated but either one would be fine i guess