'Roving Eyes'

after I got 2nd hubby I really never looked again at another man really never seen any that I thought was as good as him

I agree :) And, it works for both genders. The only time it becomes a problem is when one partner goes window shopping and goes home with what they saw instead of going home to the one they married.

Hi There, I would certainly agree with you on this. It is part of human nature and is not natural not to be attracted to other people just because you are with one person in a relationship. If it is just a matter of "looking" it shoulc never be an issue. I guess unless somebody was flagrant about it which could be looked upon as disrespectful. cheers,

Guess I never thought about it that way. But I'm sure that all guys and gals do "look" or window shop on occasion, even if they are perfectly happy at home!

Great discussion! I totally agree with you. I even think that its healthy, proving that your eyes are still working fine.lol Actually I find it flattering if some girls would look at him twice, meaning, I was correct in choosing him. As long as you trust each other, there's nothing wrong if he seems to be staring at somebody else, because I also have done some staring of my own. But that should be it, nothing more!

This is a good topic! It took me some trial and errors with different relationships to realize this. I also think maturity has a lot to do with it. It has actually got to the point where my husband and I can talk about another female and what he thinks is attractive or not and if I agree or not. For example, we are watching television and a female, to which any man in their right man would love to be with, is on some show. My husband and I will actually have the conversation as to what is "real" or not on that female. We can joke back and forth about things like that because it is just "looking". Follow the golden rule: you can look, just don't touch!

I agree, but one should not make it so obvious when they are out with their significant other. It hurts their feelings and it makes them feel like they are not good enough for you. It makes them feel like you want to be with someone else even though you married them. It is okay to look as long as we do not touch and hurt others.

What an excellent point you have made in your discussion. I completely agree with you that after marriage, one cannot close his/her eyes in not looking towards others. It is quite natural to look at a handsome man or a gorgeous woman. No one closes his/her eyes. It depends upon the other partner, how liberal and broad minded she/he is....about this attitude. I think, there is no harm in 'window shopping' it sometimes helps you recharge (without spending anything) and one should be allowed to do window shopping, if not always, occasionally. What do you do yourself, do you enjoy beautfy and handsomeness of others, while you are moving with your partner and do you feel guilty about the same and you take it as a normal?

I agree that it is ok to find other people attractive. But it is also important to keep some distance otherwise you might end falling in love or hurting someone.