swinging.. have you? will you? etc

Swinging is not a good sign. Sticking to one partner is better, Swinging can ruin a relationship. I would better stick to one partner, rather than swinging, which to my mind may put my life in trouble.

ok, so here we go... i've never told anyone this in my life...but since my identity is hidden, i will respond to you... i used to subscribe to a thing called mocospace (it's like myspace) and a woman approached me. We started chatting and got to know each other pretty well. Then I started talking to her hubby. then i introduced my husbband to the two of them. the four of us talked on the phone every day...then we got up the nerve to meet eachother and go bowling (we lived in neighboring cities). We hit it off great! It was like we knew eachother for years. Then they approached us about having a four-some. They had had a couple of 3-somes during the course of thier marriage, but were really attracted to us and wanted a foursome. My husband and I talked about it and we decided we would do it it the situation presented itself. The four of us were exchanging some pretty racy pix via text messages. We just had to find a time when the four of us could meet... Well, in the meantime her hubby told me that he thought i was the hottest girl that he had ever met and wanted to be alone with me and what he wanted to do with me. i told him that he needed to stop cause i wasn't going to do anything with him without my hubby being there. i wasn't going to go behind his back and mess around. well, he just kept going on and on so i told my husband about it. we decided i needed to tell her what he was trying to do. She was my best friend in the world and we talked about everything. a couple of weeks before this she had called me in tears saying a woman had talked to her and told her he was saying the same stuff to me that he was saying to her. So i thought she had the right to know. I told her and she got mad at me and never spoke to me again. You see...when we were going to go thru with 'it' we had talked about boundaries...one of them were that you don't do anything behind your spouses back. he had crossed that line more than once and i told her. i guess he told her that i initiated it or something along those lines since she refuses to talk to me for trying to be a good friend. It hurt pretty bad (i'm over it now). There is so much more to this story but i feel like i have rambled on long enough. all this to say, i never went thru with it, and now i don't think that i ever would, but i came awfully close to it. I'm really glad i didn't cause i think it would've really made things awkward between me and my husband. i don't know if i could've handled seeing him be intimate with another woman. we have put all this past us and have vowed to each other to never even consider this again. In a way, it was a blessing in disguise. My advice to those who are considering doing something like this...be very cautious...don't do it with a friend cause of what happened to me...and it would probably be best if you weren't trying to do it with your significant other cause even if they say they didn't mind you being intimate with someone else, they more than likely did deep down in their hearts. It's a dangerous game to play and i'm really glad we didn't take that chance.

I have never swung before....I don't know if I ever would.... I do not know of anybody who has done it...of course, not thinking the people I know would admit it to me if they have done it....And no, I don't look down on people who do...everyone is allowed to do as they wish as long as it is mutual between the people and I do believe that everything happens for a reason, even if it seems terrible at the moment....

I have no interest in swinging. I am interested in one person that I am sexually attracted to and compatiable with. Someone that is willing to be open minded enoough that we can explore each others fantasies between the 2 of us.