pregnant women and no husbands
By bdugas
@bdugas (3578)
United States
June 22, 2008 10:05am CST
I belong to a site called Aidpage, it is for people who need help to post what they need and see if any one out there can help them. It was brought to my attention after the hurricane. I got notice in my email about a new post and went to see what it was, a woman who said she has 4 children and ready to deliver another one in August, and no husband, apparently she just has kids. She said she needs someone to send her money to pay her bills as she is always pregant and can't work. I had to laugh, but I have noticed on many site now adays there seems to be more women that are having kids right and left and no fathers to take care of the bills. What has happen to the idea of getting married and having kids. I can not believe the women who will post I have 4 kids and one on the way and the fathers are not in their lives, so I need someone to send me money. Do these women not care anything about what is happening with the kids, that there is no father for them, is it the going thing now adays to just spit out babies one right after the other then ask for help. I can see making a mistake, it is easly done, but 4 and one on the way, do they get big welfare and if they do don't you think tieing their tubes so there are no more to take care of would be one way of the state having to pay for another baby, or do you think it is each persons right to have as many babies as they can without making the father take the responsiblity in helping to raise them, what is your opinion on this.
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@Louiseybaby (68)
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22 Jun 08
i think you are being OTT and quite vicious! ok yeah she shouldnt go asking people for money but if someone likes being single and they are a good mum then why the hell shouldnt they have as many kids as they want? i am a single mother of two and i bet i am doing a better job then you! i am also teaching them at home and they are way ahead of all the other kids their ages! i am doing a fantastic job i am very proud! i am doing better as a parent then most people i see these days! my kids would deffinatly be happier with me then with two small minded parents.
@JohnSteel (75)
• United States
22 Jun 08
Quite vicious? Grow up! If your're going around having kids with men that you have no intention to marry then you're just using them for your own personal gain. What are you going to tell your kids when they grow up enough to ask about having a father and you having a husband? How revolting!
@Louiseybaby (68)
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23 Jun 08
Actually i think YOU need to grow up johnsteel! it is actually their fathers fault he is not in their life! and you know what? my kids couldnt be happier! they dont need a useless man in their lives they have all the family & love they need :D
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
23 Jun 08
And if yous tay home with them and home school them who and where is the money coming from to raise them? Did not see anything about working, does he pay you child support if he is not in their lives, someone has to support them, have as damn many as you want, but make sure you got a job to support them with, not a welfare mother popping out babies, if I ran the welfare system we would go back to what we had years ago, have one the system will pay everyone deserves a mistake, have another we tie your tubes, be a lot less kids running the streets with only one parent and that one most times could care less what the kids doing. Explain your self if you don't want people coming down on you, or leave it and we will take it like we see it.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Its sad that women get pregnut over and over and never have any help with them.I can maybe understand it happening one time,that way she can go out and get a job to support her child,but 4 children? I would be ashamed to put that on the internet..Some of these women don't even know who the father is,its pityful....I have seen some women who have children and run up to the welfare office and get food stamps,free food,and health care plus a check for each kid..Its pityful for women to do this.I am sorry but it is hard for me to feel any sympathy for these women.I only feel sorry for the poor little children...Thers was a woman here in Texas that had a baby over and over and all she said about her condition was "oh well i can get more money now..Thats sad,and these women cripple the society...
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
25 Jun 08
Yes i have seen the show..Also on the divorce court they have the same thing,they have about 5 men that they are trying to find the father,the men are getting those test to find out if the kids are theirs,they want a divorce because their wife sleeps around........I think that some of these women just use the system..My son got mixed up with a woman like this, 3 kids ,no father,and she was just using him..When he was out of town she was hanging around all the single guys trying to find someone to support her and her kids...Its sad for the kids..I would be so ashamed to be the woman looking for the father...It don't say much for the mother does it?..
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@bdugas (3578)
• United States
25 Jun 08
Have you seen the Morey Popich show where he tries to help the women find the real fathers to their kids, some have 11 men lined up they have brought to the show, I would be so ashammed if that was my daughter up there on stage,and each test coming back not the father. You are right it is an extra check for some and more food stamps that the working person pays for. I have no sympathy for any woman that has more than one mistake, after that it is not a mistake. My daughter was pregnant at almost 19, she married the guy, sorry if you can make it you can support it, the marriage lasted 10 years, and she caught him cheating, but he supports the kids they made. I fully support the welfare tying the tubes of anyone that has more than one that they have to pay for,and it is very hard for a mother with 3 or 4 kids to find a man that want to jump into a marriage with a bunch of kids already there, I would get the feeling that she needed me for a father to support them,not that she loved me. But some like this one above will always say it is alright that they dont' need to answer to no one, for what they do. It is the kids that suffer.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
22 Jun 08
HI there bdugas, I am sorry to say but for me that is totally irresponsible.. Having 1 kid with no father would be ok but more is already her fault...She has also to consider the welfare of her kids and not just trusting easily with anyone without any assurance that she will be helped in raising the kids, there are many birth control that will help her satisfied her needs without adding more burden or problems..I know kids are blessing but they have right also, like having a complete family, be educated and satisfied with their needs and wants..How can she tackle her role as a mother is that is the case!
