Life-changing Event

As both my parents have Alzheimers now pal , I still manage to care for them in their own home , This is something that might happen with us in the future , I just try to take every day as it comes and not think too far ahead xx

Those are one of those moments that science can't explain what happened. That to me is what I call a blessing. This lady needed that to be her on the earth just a little longer. That is a good thing; I commend her son for being brave during something like this. It can be really nerve wrecking but he's there and that's good. This was a serious blessing and heaven only knows what really when on. Have a good one.

I've been staying with my 91 year old mother as her primary care-giver for years now but I really don't see it as a sacrifice. I see it as I've been given a gift of having my mom with me far longer than many people do and having the opportunity to give back a tiny bit of what she gave to me. Our roles do get reversed if we're lucky enough to have one or both parents with us long enough. Annie

Yes, I would be, and I have been called on to make such sacrifices. I took care of both my grandparents when they got older, my grandmother had gotten sick and had a stroke that left her paralyzed on one side. I was the one who was there to take care of her, I lived with them. It was hard, she couldn't do anything to help herself, I had to get her on and off the potty, because of the stroke she couldn't lift herself and that was hard for me to do, and grandpa bless his heart would try to help but he would just get in the way mostly. Then a few yrs. later she passed away, then I was left to take care of grandpa. As the yrs. passed he became ill, and again I was there to take care of him, he was bedridden, and he had a few strokes and later he passed on too, but I'll never regret having the time I did with both of them, I loved them so much and miss them terribly. A few years ago my mother had a stroke, I'm the only one out of my siblings that don't have children, so she came home from the hospital with me. It was hard in the beginning because I had to teach her how to do things all over again, she lost her memory, some of her eyesight and some of her mobility. I took her to her physical therapy, made sure she ate and just took care of her, it was like she was the child and I was the mother. After 2 yrs. she got back on her feet, she was almost herself again, it was a long road but she did it. She moved out and has her own home now, and driving herself around again and working part-time. I'm just thankful to God that he helped us get through that time, and thankful that he gave me the ability to do it, cause it does get hard for the caregiver also, I pray for all the caregivers out there that are taking care of their elders, its a tough job, but you'll be blessed for it.

This is a tough one to call. If it were my wife, I would have no problem at all. Though my mother passed away last month, I would have had great difficulty in such a situation if it were her. I think that I would just have to hire someone or get a female family member to do certain task.

no doubt, I would gladly change either of my parents diapers why not they did it for me... I'd love to have something so amazing happen at a time like that.

My Mother and I had this same conversation a little while ago. I told her that I couldn't do it. If she ever became incapacitated to that point I would make sure she had the best nurse that money can buy, but I would never be able to change her diapers myself. Its not that I'm selfish or think its nasty. I don't think that I would be able to wrap my mind around that concept. My mother had me young, she was 15, so we're not that far in age. I have always seen my mother as a young, vibrant woman. If she ever became incapacitated to the point that she would need assistance with her ADL's (Activities of Daily Living), I wouldn't be any good because it would just break me up. I would make sure that she was taken care of. I don't want to see her in a nursing home if I could stand it, but I couldn't do it myself. I wouldn't be any good.