My pregnant sister-in-law's behavior

I think like any crisis or family drama, it brings out the best and the worse in people. I think your sister-in-law is just being natural, the natural a**hole she is. This is just a guess because I have never been pregnant but I don't think being pregnant makes you rude.i have heard about being moody but that's not the same thing.She could have just said thank you to the gifts, brought them home and not use them . When step mom came over, then tell her that you found that you couldn't use the items in the room . Or that you have something like it already. That way she knows the thought was appreciated.

Actually that sounds like the typical pregnant female ( a child with both my ex & present wife & they both acted like that in some way ). Overemotional & demanding is the norm. Are you SURE you really want to go through that....?

Your sister in law sounds like a spoilt child. First of all, she is not the only woman to get pregnant. So she should not be boasting off as if she has climbed the Himalayas. You have nothing to feel bad about if you cant concieve. It will happen sooner or later, or you can just go adopt a tiny new born baby and claim it as your own. The baby will have a good home and you will have a baby to love. As regards her not accepting presents from your mum in law, well when she said it did not match with the decor, your mum should have cooly collected all the gifts and kept them aside. All women have some likes and dislikes at this time, but one cannot demand it of others. Next time, dont go when she is around. Better to make an escuse than to have a complaining person around. Good luck and I am sure a baby will arrive soon to grace your home.

I can understand where you are coming from, because pregnant women do act completely selfish, and I have been in her shoes. Towards the end of my last pregnancy I craved every food I saw or heard of. If I were pregnant right now I'd want fresh homemade donuts and jalepeno poppers just because you mentioned it. And if my husband were home I'd make him get them for me. If he tried to refuse I'd remind him who's fault it is that I'm pregnant. (Jokingly of course, we both know it was just as much my fault). When I was pregnant for my twins hubby's parents bought us stuff from garage sales on a weekly basis. When they gave it to me I'd be gracious and say thank you so as not to hurt their feelings, all the while thinking "I'm dropping this off at good will as soon as I leave here". But I do think she was a bit rude. I can't imagine actually refusing a gift from someone. Pregnant or not that's just bad manners. "Gramma" is gonna shower her grandbabies with gifts, whether you like it or not. It's her role as a grandmother. So I think it's a bit of both. I think maybe you're a bit sensative and jealous, and she's a bit rude. Both are natural. I also want to tell a quick story here. When I was pregnant with my twins (who are now 5), my sister in law was married but claimed not to want children (she still doesn't have any, but is divorced and shacked up with someone new). Well she was so jealous of the attention I was getting, she came to my baby shower to show off her new horse, who was some decendent of a famous race horse, as if I cared. She annoyed all my guests, and to this day I hear from my son's godmother how annoying she was. She was so jealous she tried to steal my thunder, and it sort of hurt. Pregnancy is a very special and sometimes difficult time during a woman's life, and she shouldn't be made to feel that way. Best of luck to you. (sending concieving vibes your way, cuz I don't want them anymore )

I am sure that being pregnant can make you uncomfortable and suceptible to mood swings, but it is not a reason to be so terribly rude! I can't imagine saying things like that about a gift, especially from my own mother! She would be so hurt. There are plenty of ways to just accept a gift, and either find a use for it, give it away, or in the case of family, save to take out when the person who gave the gift drops by! Even better, if it is clothing that you find hideous, put it on the child once, take a picture to give to the gifter, then donate the outfit. I can't stand people who are so ungrateful about gifts. I am willing to bet that she was like this before she was pregnant. If not, I MIGHT be willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, if it wasn't for the way she acted towards her mothers' gifts.

Your hubby sounds like quite the jewel. A portion of the problem is hormones but, manners do not come close to that. Her behaviour as far as the gifts are concerned was diplorable. But, my big gripes about situations like this is this: If people put up with this sort of behavior aren't they adding to the problem? It never changes if she doesn't know it irritates and hurts people.

Well, a lot of these sound quite typical of a lot of women pregnant especially. I know some women are just quite picky though when it comes to what they will envision their children wearing, colors, etc. before they are even born, and that is why there are so many different styles of clothes out there to choose from. I am not sure if this was appropriate to be so picky like this with everyone there, to the point if it was me, I would be just wanting to give her $$, or take her with me if it was that important to help choose what she thought the child would want to wear, etc. So yes, it must have been hard for you as well.

As far as the cravings go yeah that is completely normal. Cravings can be really strong and nothing will do till you get what you are craving. LOL. As far as the rejecting of the gifts I find that rather rude of her. Obviously you mother in law is very excited about the baby and wanted to feel she was participating in this I know her feelings must have been crushed when your sister in law rejected the gifts that she had put thought into purchasing. Good luck with it all. Hopefully you will be expecting soon and remember your sister in laws bad behavior and strive to do better. Hormones can only be blamed so far.

I think that it is just unacceptable. So the woman can get pregnant, lots of women do. How about all the women that give birth working in fields? If she had a craving she should be able to get her butt up and get it herself. That little game is reserved for farther along in her pregnancy, especially around other people. As far as your mother in law, that is terrible, and hopefully she will realize what a brat the woman is and stop trying to be gracious. Goodness sake, I would be as frustrated as you. I don't care if she wasn't feeling well, she was acting like a spoiled little brat!

I think its just with her attitude. she likes to behave like that. also she wants to actch attention. as she is pregnant, she wants to make it a statement i guess. There are some people who blows things out of proportion.

Well, i would say its probally has to do with alot of thoes mixed up emoptions you have because you have bee trying for so long and nothing... But I do agree she didnt have to say she didnt like this or didnt want that.. she could have pretended for the time being and then took them back to the store and switch them for somthing else.. you dont need a reciet for anything unles su want money back. or she could have even given them to someone who would appreciate them. she didnt have to be rude about that...

most pregnant women do have intense cravings for certain things and too their hormones are making them a bit antsy too so I expect its a bit of you and a bit of her too.being nasty about those gifts from your mom in law is bit out of hand even for a pregnant woman. I have been there myseld and also done that but never was I nasty about gifts. she needs to clean up her act a bit and you need to not be quite so prickly also. I think you may unconsciously resent her being pregnant just a bit.

Well there's really people like your sister-in-law in this world and they're being treated uinportantly by me. Though I don't give them the attitude or face but I prefer to stay away from them. I have cousins who think they're better than anyone else or they're so inappropriate in low ways because they think this and that or whatever. Just don't mind her so it'll be good.

it's a pregant lady behaviour

Hi there, I guess she has an attitude and I don't see any of my friends acting like that when they were pregnant,,,I also feel for your mother-in-law for being very good to her yet it was not appreciated!

That sounds about normal. And no offense meant to ANY woman who is pregnant. I was the same way when I was pregnant. Actually, I thought that I was very well behaved and acted normal. But my spouse has since confided that I acted very emotional at times. I do not remember acting that way. Sometimes when I have PMS, I gripe a lot and have bad days where noone can do anything to please me. I do not want to act this way. But I have terrible hormone swings, highs and lows and it is inevitable. Perhaps your sister in law cannot control herself. Best of luck getting pregnant and on being a mommy. I love my mommy job! Best job on the planet. be well!

Pregnacy does not change most women that much. If it does then it's time to see a doctor. My sister had two kids and I know other people who have had kids. Acting like a spoiled brat, being moody, etc. isn't normal.

I don't see why being pregnant is any excuse for being rude or disrespectful of someone else's feelings. I'd also say that at only 4 months pregnant, a pregnant woman is quite capable of going out to buy her own food! My guess is that someone who behaves rudely when pregnant is probably rude all the time.

Most pregnant women act like that, I think its the hormones. But some women are acting more than how their hormones should actually affect them, my sister is also pregnant, and sometimes she'd act like a spoiled brat too. But because Im older, I can easily show her the errors in her behaviour, and how she would hurt someone else or how she made some big issue of something which is actually nothing. And when confronted she would just Cry... now Im the one feeling bad for berating a pregnant woman. So if your sister-in-law had been acting like this even before the pregnancy, expect much worse. Good Luck! : )

She sounds a bit over the top to me. Pregnancy can make you tired and irritable but you just have to get on with it and not take it out on others. At least you can keep your distance from her. Good luck