Can You Accept The Past of Your Partner?
By patzel88
@patzel88 (3310)
Philippines
4 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Jun 08
It all depends on what he did in the past and how it effects the future.If he did a petty crime but did his time in jail and changed his ways I could accept that.But if he has a child with another woman and didn't tell me, I would have to break up with him.Having a children isn't a thing you just keep to yourself. A child effects the future. I never wanted children and I will tell any guy i am with so saying he understands but he has a child that he didn't tell me about is lying in my book and I don't stay with liars.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Jun 08
If he is involved in the life of his child, and I hope all fathers could be, then we should part.His child should come way before a girlfriend and that involves the future.
If I met a guy and we went out and fell in love and then after all this time he tells me about a child he has, I would either be so hurt that I would break up Or I would make sure he saw his child but left me out of it.I am not mother or step mother material.I wouldn't want to be with the child but if we are in love , then I would just cut my time with him in half so he could be with his child , without me.I pity the guy who thinks that if i only get to know his child I will change my mind. Or he is the one to change my mind because I would end up leaving him. How could I stay with a guy who doesn't believe me when I state the truth?
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
what if the child is the reason why he wants to keep it secret because his child dont want another woman to be involve with his/her father, but the man is deeply inlove with you and he dont want to tell you because he afraid what might happend to you if his child couldnt accept you?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I Think that if my fiance had an awful past I would definitely forgive him. Its not what the past brought that should matter, its what they did to shape their future. Of course if your partner was an axe murderer, that would be different
Have a Great day.
Have a Great day.@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Jun 08
If they totally lived the past and paid for what they've done I might. My fiance isn't an axe murderer, though, thankfully. I met him online, through a friend, so anything could happen.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
23 Jun 08
you must not remind your partner about this past kind of a thing. it could be sweet or bitter. it will always hurt somewhere. so better to forget about and it there are more than a thousand other issues for the future and our survival.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
When you have loved, you should have whole heartedly accepted everything about him. Everyone has an ugly past that they don't want to be reminded of. What matters is today, not yesterday because it is already history. No matter how ugly your partner's past is, it is still one of the reasons why he is what he is now, the love of your life(^^,)
