Looking good... Is it that Important??
By Alucifer89
@Alucifer89 (292)
India
June 23, 2008 3:59am CST
I've been hearing things since i was little. "You're lucky" "Looking good matters a lot in todays world". "Looks Matter" .. u know that sort of thing.
Attractive people are generally chosen over .. well, not so attractive people. If 2 people with the same skill and same qualifications apply for a job, im more than sure the person who looks better usually gets it.
Similar in social areas .. Good looking people are more popular, have more friends, enjoy a biased treatment.
Further justified by huge amount of money that the cosetic companies are making, and people arewilling to pay anything, to get 'The Look'.
So what about you .. Do you judge others on their looks. While making friends, do you prefer being close to attrctive people?? .. How much do looks really matter??
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14 responses
@anndocs (249)
•
24 Jun 08
Well, we can not hide the fact that what you have said is the reality that good looks has great impact.
But as to your question if I judge others on their look? "No"- looks doesn't really matters to me if I wanted him/her to be friend, I have a beggar friend, a friend with down syndrome and a lot more, they all mean a lot to me they might not have good looks outside but they have a big heart, they are so kind and very friendly.
We cannot judge other on how they look because everybody is unique, and what matter is the beauty they have inside.
Thanks and happy My lot
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@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
So true ..
I guess its a personal choice in our day to day life ..
Looks are important as evident, but the qualities the other person has are important too...
Thanks :)
Have a nice day ;)
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@zhuxia (344)
• China
24 Jun 08
If you go shopping , you also choose good looking goods.
So does human.
Good looking give another good sence, good impressive, give someone good mood maybe.
Yes, it is important.
But if you don't think you have good looking,no matter,you could have another skills to make up it.
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@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
Thanks a lot for replying :) ..
Have a nice day.
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@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
Biased treatment towards the more attractive ..
Exactly what i was saying.
Sure people would still notp ay attention to good looking but dumb people .. but yes, if u are intelligent, and good looking as well .. then you do get more of everything.
Thanks al ot :) ..
Have a nice day ;)
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
24 Jun 08
That's so true! This really is the
world for the beautiful people.
Beautiful people do get better jobs
and more friends. Not sure why,
cause they are not really better people.
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@dasiejanie (590)
• United States
23 Jun 08
if we all could turn ourselves inside out
life would maybe at least start fair but then
I'm sure there still would be something that
would set people apart from each other.
"make them better" and we'd all wish for that.
No matter what I think people always find something
no matter how small, that they want and think
would make them better "prettier"
we"re never satisfied.
@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
True ..
Hence the bazzillions of dollars the cosmetic companies are making ... all promising a better 'look'
Have a nice day :)
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@Agent89 (91)
• India
23 Jun 08
Id have to say yes. Looks nowdays do matter. If they dont matter to you, they sure as hell matter to the soceity we are part of.
Good looking people do get more sympathies, more friends, more fame, jobs, respectetc. Im not saying that an absoultely dumb but good looking person wil be preferred over a genious that doesnt looks as good, my point is if 2 people of same skills and same talent, like u mentioned, are applying have to be chosen from .. most people will definitely go with the person who is more attractive.
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
23 Jun 08
Me personally, it's not looks that attract me to a person but they way they act. Whether a person is approachable and open, humorous, friendly. Looks are secondary. You do have a point though that it is often the more attractive person that is noticed over someone not so attractive. These are only cosmetic appearances (not makeup). Have you ever noticed that when you get to know a person, like their personality, they become attractive to you. Interesting that one! Beauty then is in the eye of the beholder.
And most times when a person feels great inside, they glow outside and so become attractive. That's amazing to watch when it happens. Interesting too, is when someone takes pride in their appearance, nice clean clothes, clean body, it can make them look attractive over someone who doesn't care about their clothes. This is a personal attitude mainly. If you feel and look bad to yourself, you will project it so others think the same about you. So from this angle, it pays to do your best to make yourself look and feel good for yourself, not for anyone else.
Looks matter, but it's only skin deep!
@tinaxu7432 (7)
• Hong Kong
24 Jun 08
In first meeting, one person with good looking is more attractive than those without it. But with deep communication, the personalities began more important. Every one likes people with kind-hearted, generosity and helpful! The ones only with beauty are not popular.
But one point to admit, we always choose the better looking one when two are similar inside. Anyway, we have to pay attention to our lookings, including make-up, clothes and tidiness. We hope we are attractive in others' eyes.
@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
-nods, claps and agrees- ...
But the thing is .. we dont judge people, we wait to know them a bit better before making our opinions. Buut in professional life .. where sm1 have only 1 chance to either get the job, or not .. or the promotion, or anything which he/she want, It would depend a LOT on how attractive he/she appears. You are right, it reflects if you are well groomed, wear nice clothes, have confidence etc etc .. but what will happen if some else .. who also looks nice, smells nice, wears nice clothes, is confident and is as talented/skilled as you are approaches to get the place you want. I dont think the peson deciding who gets it will wait to get to know the2 people better ..
Thanks a lot for responding.
Have a nice day :)
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@mizcash (685)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
I don't judge people by their looks what matters is the cxharacter of the person, never judge a book by it's cover. I always like to look my best because I am more confident when I am like that, others maybe comfortable how they choose to carry themselves.
@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
Thats my point you see ..
We try to look our best .. even though we know we shouldnt judge a book by its cover. So, even though we are trying to look as attractive as possible, at the same time we say that looks arent really that important.
Feeling comfortable in how you carry yourself is well and good.. but we are talking about the 'why' here.
Thanks a lot for responding ;) ..
Have a nice day :)
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@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
I am not beautiful because of the other people judgement, I am beautiful because I know it I feel it from within. You know sometimes, enough amount of confidence makes a person win and become more hot. those people that are undergoing operation to look good because they have money but admit it or not they lack confidence. Some product of science don't admit it but it's true, lack of confidence are the key why those people are undergoing physical change. If looks only matters, then there are no brilliant scientist who was ever discover, they ain't look that good right because they are busy but they are damn genius and they're discoveries can save the world. Do great looks can save the world? the big NO....
@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
I do agree with what you said, .. confidence makes u feel good, feeling good makes you appear confident .. which in the end makes u appear beautiful.
But as far as the scientist thing is concerned, im not sayin a gorgeous but dumb person can compete with a genious who doesnt looks good. Im just saying, that if 2 people of similar skills, background, knowledge and experience are vying for a position, then more often than not the person who looks better will get picked. Its prevelant everywhere, dont tell me you dont see it :) ..
Anyways, thanks for responding.
Have a nice day. :)
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@jose19820329 (187)
• China
24 Jun 08
pick goodthing is the human nature .
but goodlooking is only the first sight of people meeting ,i guess we all need people to be honest, though we seldom do honest to other people .so ,goodlooking shoud be with a good heart,though goodlooking easily get job or else ,but once get along after long time people will know that who is real friends ,so ,we not need think the face too much ,face just a face ,can not say that your face is your heart ,keep your heart looking good ,so your face will be looking good too .
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
24 Jun 08
As much as I feel bad about saying this, I do like to surround myself with attractive people. I try my best not to judge people by the way they look. Everyone in this world is trying to be more attractive. Look at all the shows that are centered around making someone look better and how it will change their lives. I do have some friends that other people don't find really attractive, but not everyone is perfect. People spend millions a year just to look better so they will be accepted more, and I don't see that changing anytime soon.
@Alucifer89 (292)
• India
24 Jun 08
I know .. lol .. Its like a 'New World Order' .. Look good if you'd rather enjoy your stay here .. that kind of thing. It is a bit sad .. but meh, thats how we've been living since earlier i guess.
Have a nice day :)
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Yes, it is sad. Now women not only have to be the right size but have all the right things in the right places. On top of that, we must dress well also. So many women that I know will not walk out the house without makeup on. I must say that I am trying to loose weight, but for health reasons. I haven't weighed as much as I have now for a long time. I won't even take pictures because of it. Most people, even doctors, so I don't look my weight but it doesn't matter to me. I know how much I weigh and I want it to be less. Other than that, there's really nothing I would change. Liposuction in places would be great, but it's not something I think about constantly. There are more things that I like about my looks than I dislike. And most of the things I dislike can me changed with a little exercise, hair dye, and trip to a nail salon. :)
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@ann61285 (60)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
For me, i just groom myself properly for personal hygiene and become presentable in the public. Above all, what's important is my inner self and the way i treated others. As well, attractive looks are not one of my qualification upon choosing my friends but rather their inner self.
@crazy_andy (258)
• China
24 Jun 08
It's important absolutely. but it's not the most important factor in one's life. so just get used to it. if you look good ,it's one of you advantages, so you have more choices, but if you not, you can just pay no attention to it.it's okay.
as you know ,everyone has its advantages and disadvantages. a good-looking person may have some other weak points, so just take advantage of your advatages.
God treated everyone equally.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
25 Oct 09
Hi Alucifer89,
No, looking good can matter to me in the sense that if I look in the Mirror and a not so nice image shouts back at me I will usually fix it with make up but only a small amount.
As for other People I know what you mean but when I see People I don´t really think about whether they are good looking or not. I mean not normally if I see a good looking man I think he´s really nice but nothing more than that.
Any person that maintains a good conversation when you are with them the people that like you the way you are these are the most "attractive" people for me anyway.
Attractive people for me also are the ones who are good of heart and sincere matters not to me if they are purple with stripes.