Please Help me out of Love problem
By senjacob
@senjacob (124)
June 23, 2008 7:35am CST
My close friend is one who loves one girl for the past two years sicerely.But they never see each other frequently,only two times in two years.Even they have not seen frequently,but they are very close to eaach other and talked in mobile phone for long hours continuously three or four hours.
But suddenly one unexpected problem exists between them.
My friend doubts his girl friend,because she is the reason for that.
She is looking beautiful so she got many calls from his boy friends as they are proposing their love to her.
but she replied that i already fixed.
But she told her lover (My friend) that wat ahe talked to her boy friends regarding proposes.
The problem is the girl always talked about her boy friend's proposes to my friend.
At last,he doubts about her and asked many questions regarding that.
Now i heard that my friend got a very big confusion in his mind and it seems their love going to break..
Even she is good,but my friend cannot beleive her because of her past talkings.
please can anyone give tips to join their love
5 responses
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
23 Jun 08
I simply don't understand this. Let me put the facts here.
1. In two years, your friend saw this girl only twice.
2. The only point of contact between the two is the phone.
Do you seriously think that a few telephonic conversations over the phone constitutes a relationship? You think this is called "love"? I am sorry, but I am laughing here.
Now for the girl:
1. She has been getting proposals from many boys. Well, what else do you expect? Do you expect that nobody should look at a beautiful girl just because your friend has no time to meet her more often and make the relationship more meaningful?
2. She told your friend about her "boy friends." So your friend doubts her. Of what does he doubt her? You think she would be idiot enough to tell him if she was cheating on her?
This boy, who has hardly seen this girl, actually doubts her for knowing a few boys maybe in class or church activities or work??? Please don't make me laugh. If he "doubts" her now, how much might he doubt her if he actually marries her?
Here is my advice to your friend: "Boy, grow up first and then "fall in love."
Cheers and happy mylotting
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
25 Jun 08
Well, if your friend is too busy for her, then he had better give up the relationship. It may be only my opinion, but proximity is very important in a relationship. If there is no proximity, at least there should be trust. And your friend is neither close to her nor does her trust her! And this you call love? Sorry, it doesn't sound like love to me. Love trusts and love wants the other to be happy always.
Regarding the girl's habit of boasting about her popularity and her beauty, I don't think this is an unforgivable sin. Your friend could just have spoken to her and told her frankly about how much it hurt or upset him. She would have understood and changed her attitude. Tell your friend he won't find any "perfect girls" in the world. "Perfect girls" don't exist just as "perfect boys' don't exist.
I feel if your friend can't trust her and has no time to meet her often and is "too busy" he had better not waste the little time he has on a love relationship. Tell him to concentrate on his job and forget it. Anyway, the girl is lovely and popular; she might find someone better who can trust her and has more time to meet her and talk to her.
Cheers and happy mylotting!
@senjacob (124)
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24 Jun 08
Thanks for your fantastic comments.
But i want to tell the reasons why my friend no time to meet her?
The distance between them is 500 kms.
He is very much busy in his work.
And the very important point is my friend not simply doubts about her talkings.
she always talked about her beaty and many of her friends ready to marry her.
@eliren (91)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
im in a long distance relationship.... we already talked about this kind of situation,, only TRUST binds us.. we dont let any doubt or sayings will break us apart...
we believe in the saying that
LOVE CANNOT LIVE WER THERE IS NO TRUST
if u are taken so be it,,,
if u want to be single, so be it
but dont ever fool anybody
u can tell to ur someone that u have somebody at least u dont lie.
truth hurts but it will set u free.
if ur friend doubts his gf maybe there is something about him or his relationship with her.
u should also remember the saying that,
not everything u do is wat everybody is doing,,,
wat everything u think is wat everybody is thinking...
my point is,,, u can love but u cannot stop other ppol from loving other ppol especially if this will make them happy ^_^
@nikkidv22 (69)
• South Africa
23 Jun 08
Trust is very important in any relationship if it wants to last. I think they should meet face to face, not on the phone, and discuss their future with each other with no interference from other guys.
@alchemyoflife (7)
• India
23 Jun 08
Nice to hear ur concern abt ur friend ,
Well friend I can only say that TRUST always plays a important role in our life, once we lose its dificult to regain it. U can ask ur friend not to loose trust on her if at all he really loves ( also plz ask him the defination of his love, if his love is sooo weak that even the rumours n alike can affect his love than am sorry friend his love is something different, it has become his buisness where he always believes in Give n Take Policy )
Inspite of not having trust on her n continue his Pseudo love, this will affect in his future, I meant in his marriage, hence ask him not to do so , also more imortant aski ur friend to again have a discussion with hid GF asthere is everypossibility that she may try to irritate him )
At the end, I still say, Trust from both side is important n if they have it no matter wt , nothing can affect their relationship.
All d best friend ... hope this will help u n ur friend
@chrislee2701 (27)
• China
23 Jun 08
The distance is really a problem,but if they really want in love,it is very important to believe in,let your friend have a chat with his girlfriend well when free
