i found out that my husband's password is former gf's name

its always a reoccurring argument every time the girl talks to him and he always want to hang out with her and she kinda have alot of influence on him before and he carries it until now. like some of choices and views he got from her and we differ in our views. so its kinda hard. i know its petty but i am going to give you an example. he doesnt want to have a uniform dinner wares just becoz they argreed before that its better to have different dinnerwares or glass or serving dish. so now our cabinet is crazy and when we have dinner the table looks crazy from the different stuff that we have. and he wants to stick with it. he wants to hang out with her and he really want me to hangout with her too. like the 3 of us. he even wanted her to stay with us before. and i think that is crazy and unacceptable. and it was a very long discussion and argument and stress. he kinda sometimes dont know where to draw the line.

o btw.. me and my husband now are ok..the last time we had an argument where he wanted me to go to her place to play games, i told him he can go and i can just stay home. it was definitely ok with me..i tried to be understanding, i know that they are freinds and been "bff" since they are 15 so i understand its inevitable for them to see each other.. but i am not really interested in meeting her after something that happend before where she sent me an email. asking me why i am bothered for my husband (bf then) staying the night at her place. i told him before that i dont like the idea of him spending hte night at her apartment. and they made a really big deal about it and they really didnt get my point why it bothered me. so, when he was asking me if he can go hangout with her to play games...i was just cool with it and told him that its ok...what pissed me off was he keep on asking me why i dont want to go with him...i was trying to keep my cool with it..but then he kinda pushed me..so i got so pissed and told him ,,coz i dont like her and stuff...but he still went...i was so upset, sad , angry to the worl..it took me 3 days to get over it. after that he kinda back off at her... so far we are doing ok... and i know how much he loves me...i am just insecure that i know he is just doing this becoz of me. but i know he stil checks on her and cares and he feels it sucks that he cant see or hangout with her..or provide help for her...

i even sometimes bring this up whenever he have argument that involves the girl. i havent met the girl yet and he wants us to hangout. so whenever we have argument, he knows that i dont feel comfortable that he still uses her name as password. he still didnt change it. so i dont know whats the real deal about it.

i am sure that he loved her so much and care for her so much and how much he want her to be still in his life like she used to even if im already here. i dont like the feeling that he still thinks and cares about her. i kinda feel that since the girl doesnt want him, im his diversion or he settled for me. and he believes that if theres nobody around his love will stil be directed to her..