If you know dat you were betrayed...n if still you cant hate him / her..

that means that the person is not worth you...i have been thru the si milar situation and i cant hate that person ..somehow i cant hate anybody no matter whtever ahappens and i ahte this quality of mine given by god to me....

nehaaaa! Love rules heart and not mind. i say this cos i ruled by my heart and that the reason we lose our rationality in such matters and do not act worldly if it is true love. love or hatred is not having to decide with your mind. it erupts automatically spontaneously from your heart at he very thought or sight of a person. it is not a worldly issue that you sit and think and decide whether to do it or not. well, the factors of forgiving and forgetting can be thought with mind. love, malice, are all feelings which your heart feels. to me i have loved my to an extent that i had forgiven him and accepted all his affairs and am staying along with him. but the fact that he does not love me is tearing me into bits.

if you read my other posts here, then i my answer to this would be simple. just go on with the time/life incase you are a mother too for hte sake of kids as i am doing. but you are sure to burst one day and that would be an automatic end to the episode. else break off if you think you can sustain without him in all ways financially, socialy and otherwise too.

Of course if I know that i'm betrayed, the first thing that I'll do is to hate that person. After all the trust you have given, still that person has the guts to do that. Well for me that's natural. Hating that person first and after that learning to forget what happened. I've been betrayed many times, and I think it's not healthy if I keep on hating them, I will not be benefited from that. As much as possible I don't want to see their face anymore because it's like you're going to remember what had happened and it's like scratching the scars that's starting to heal. So live and let go. Karma is just around the corner.

Get over him or her before it gets too late and you are too attached to the person to ever leave such an unhealthy relationship!

Once betrayed, you can't help but still want to forgive but let me ask you one question. Are all the love, trust and faith that you've put into them worth to be forsaken just like that? Before you decide to still love or hate that person for betraying you, you should love yourself first. You know the betrayal is worth an unspoken pain but you yourself deserve someone better. Way better. A person who would not betray you for anything in the whole world. At least, that's what you owe yourself. You have your own importance that you have to prioritize for. if you know that they would be happier even without you in the picture, just let them go. let them be. your life's too precious to be wasted on such ungrateful betrayer =) Don't worry dear. Just look at the bright side. If that person is cheating on you with somebody else, sooner or later that person will do the same thing to the person whom they were cheating with when they were still with you. Yeaps, karma works in realy strange way. The universe upholds "what goes around comes around" principle. If that person was attracted to you from the first place, just know they're not the only one :3 There are a lot more people out there who's waiting for a chance to be with you.