Single after 6 years
By bcote212
@bcote212 (1112)
United States
June 24, 2008 9:10am CST
Some of you may have noticed that I have not been on this site for a while. The reason for this is because my 6 year relationship has come to an end, and I just needed a little time just by myself to really let it all sink in. My ex has stated that he still wants to be friends, because we do really like eachother as individuals. I was wondering if you guys have had any experience in the partner to friend relationship. Does it work? Is it worth it? Thanks for the info.
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7 responses
@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
24 Jun 08
I can't say I have, but if both of you can leave as friend, better for both. Do you have any kids? If you do this would make it better that way, the kids won't see all the fighting. I'm getting very close to calling it quits myself.
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@bcote212 (1112)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Im sorry to hear that you might be calling it quits. I know that it is hard, but my ex and I really do get along better as friends than as lovers. Lucklily we dont have any children, or it might be harder. Im starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I may have lost a bad lover, but I feel that I may have gained a great friend.
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@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
24 Jun 08
It's good that both of you parted as friends. It's always hard at the beginning but we always tend to make thing work out for the best.
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@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
24 Jun 08
it depends on the situations that led to the break up and how you feel afterwards. But i think staying on your own will give u time to regroup and focus on ur life.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
It depends on why the relationship ended and how it was ended. If it was a mutual decision without any one's feelings having been hurt and with no recriminations or bad feelings, then I think there's a possibility that you can remain friends even if you are no longer lovers. But if your separation was somewhat nasty or it was because of the fault of the other and the decsion to separate was just the desire of just one of you, NO WAY!
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@baileycows (3665)
• United States
24 Jun 08
I have never found that to work when there was a long relationship. You can certainly try, but I have always found that to be an excuse. So that it doesnt seem so bad that your alone. Good Luck and I am sorry for your loss.
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
25 Jun 08
If the relationship ended because you guys grew apart, if you can truly forgive your mate for any wrong they have done, from the heart, and actually see a platonic friendship with that person, than it may be worth it. You have to be over all the past feelings and accept the new relationship for the parameters it has. If you feel that you can do that, then by all means go for it. Otherwise if you are keeping a friendship for the wrong reasons, then it could be detrimental to the both of you.
