should i tell my parents about my salary ?
By unuzzz
@unuzzz (1273)
Indonesia
June 24, 2008 10:33am CST
should i tell my parents about my salary ?
i used to be unemployed for quite a long time
well, actually i'm still a university student now,
so it's still ok if i'm not working right now
but at this short semester, i take a part time at the local bank
i told my parents about my job, but not tell them about the salary,
honestly, at first i had no idea about the amount of my salary
i thought they'll only pay me half, as i'm only a part timer
but apparently they put me as a full timer employee
and they pay me full too .. ^^ yaaay !!
that's a very good news to me.. hohoo
but after this condition, should i tell my parents about the full salary ?
i also get a side job as an event organizer for the last 4 years,
and they always asked me how much my salary
i know that they're very kind and caring with me, as they always remind me to save all the money and to not spend it
but it had been for years they were treating me like that,
i feel like i have no freedom in managing my own money
i always try to get my own needs by myself, like save some money to get the things i want
and like after i got it, my parents always commented a lot
like i've been too wasteful etc..
so what should i do ?
i feel like now i'm now more mature, and realize how important the value of the money i make
but at the same time, i'm not confident enough with myself,
as i'm still spend my money without responsible
share it with me friends.. ^^
thanks for responding !!
8 responses
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
25 Jun 08
Hello unuzzz,
If you don't want to tell them your exact salary, let just tell them how much you earn roughly. I don't think it is a big deal. How do you want to manage the money, it depends on you but as parents, they have the right to advise you. If you think that you are capable of managing your own money, you must show proof that you can. Maybe you should spend your money for your needs only and when they realize that you know how to manage your own financial, they will never bother you anymore *smiles*
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
27 Jun 08
hi gr8life ^^
long time don't see you, hehee
hmm, ya i know they have the right for giving me advices
but sometimes they were being too much
like when i want to buy a good shoes, they will complain a lot
saying like i'm being boros
i had dreamed to buy the shoes for a long time
but i didn't buy it because i didn't have the money,
and i didn't think to ask some money from them
when i have the money, i'm thinking of buying it since i also need it
well i didn't think it's wrong ^^
but that's ok, i'll just keep the positive parts ^^
thanks for responding gr8life .. !!
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@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
15 Jul 08
hi gr8life
it's been a while since my last time in mylot.. hehee
hmm !! your experience was happened to me last week.. hahaa
i bought a shoes last week, which is the most expensive shoes ever bought in the family history
and i bought it with my first salary.. hehee
and till now, i put the shoes on the top of my wardrobe.. LoL
hoping that my mom won't find it out until next september, hahaa
i bought the shoes for my friend's wedding, and it'll be on september.. LoL
i know i was being wasteful, but i do really need the shoes for many reasons.. hehee
so i'll pray that it won't be discovered until the time.. hahaa
thanks for responding gr8life ^^
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 08
Hello unuzzz,
I'm always here *smiles* just that I rarely post a discussion. I understand your situation. You know what? When I was a big spender (a long time story *giggles*), I always had shopping bag(s) with me when I went home (after office hour). I always hid my stuff in my car or whenever nobody at home, I will quickly hid the stuff in my room *laughs* I was tired to answer a lot of questions from my sister (I was staying with her) But at the end, I decided not to care anymore. Whenever she asked, I answered her honestly. Of course, she blamed me for being 'boros' *laughs* but I believed it is for my own good sake. I just listened and right after that, I did it again *laughs*
@Neriz69 (1093)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
I really don't see any reason why you shouldn't tell your parents about your salary. In my first job I even gave my mom my pay envelope. As the years go by I still tell them my salary even now as I have my own family. They are just happy to know that I'm doing well and can't help to feel sad when I'm not. That's how parents are. When you get to be a parent, isn't it nice to know that your kids tell you their salary? It only means one thing they trust you because they love you.
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
15 Jul 08
hi Neriz69
well, i did tell my parents about the amount of my salary, ^^
let me try to explain it a little, hehee
my pay might be small to them, that's what i get from their words .. LoL
i think they are afraid that if i spent it, the money will run out shortly
they always being fussy, tell me to not spend even a single cent of my money
but i need to buy my personal needs, and i don't want to ask the money from them,
i want to use my own money to get the things i need
so i think for some reasons it's better for me to keep silence to my parents
i know they're care with me, and think that spending my own money is not a good one,
but at the same time i'm taking care of myself
well it's hard to explain as my english is very limited.. hehee
but i hope you get what i mean Neriz69 ^^
by the way, thanks for responding !!
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
15 Jul 08
oo, i forgot to write some more, hehe
i also did like what you do Neriz69.. i give some money monthly to my parents
although the amounts are not many, but at least it's the money i earn by myself ^^
and i'm proud to give the money to my parents
i hope that i can give them more someday.. ^^
thanks ~~
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 08
hi subha12
thanks for responding ^^
hmm, it's still hard to say till now, whether the privacy is important or not
but sometimes i want them to know that i can make such money,
considered my last job has a very low salary compared to my present job ^^
thanks subha12 .. !!
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
7 Jul 08
If I were you,I'll tell them how much my salary .As this,they could feel happy for me and won't worry about my living coditions.
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
15 Jul 08
hi sanzi1201
i think i get the words "living condition" from the previous respondents
do you mean that it's like living apart from your parents ?
i still live in the same roof with my parents.. hehee
hmm, i believe they are happy too
maybe it's more like that they're being relieved that i can make money
anyway, thanks for responding sanzi1201
as people respond on this discussion, i feel helped with my confusion ^^
thanks for responding !
@Juduka (118)
• Finland
24 Jun 08
I wouldn't recommend lying to your parents. If they ask about your salary I think you should tell them. But there is nothing wrong in being vague. Lots of things including income is very flexible and result-oriented these days. When I was working as blocker (the night club cleaner) I made a fixed 6e/hour, but with all added I usually made about 50-70 euros in a four and a half hour night.
I would also like to point out that money is very very important. If you're making good money you should be investing at least a small portion of it, so you can create real wealth. A great book about this is The Richest Man in Babylon, that I just happened to have read recently...
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
27 Jun 08
hi Juduka
wow, your advice about investing the earnings back is very good
that is one wise idea.. ^^
sometimes i want to keep it secret,
but at the same time i also want to show them that i can make my own money too,
and let them know that i'm struggling to make my own life
but after that, mostly they try to take part on my money management ^^
thanks for the comment Juduka, it's very good ^^
@qhwater (392)
• China
7 Jul 08
well, if you want you can share the number with them, telling them about your salary. but if you do not want, you can keep it secretly since it is your own business. i did not tell my parents, since i do not want them to worry about me. if i tell them, maybe they will think it is too little compared with other's. or maybe i earned much better so they will worry whether i am very busy and with many tasks in my office.
so, you have your own choice.
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
15 Jul 08
hi qhwater
thanks for responding ^^
you're right, it actually depends on me whether i'll tell them or not
i think i've chosen ^^
as i'm now still live with them, they have the right to know my life
my salary, my work, or even my life is something they still have to interfere with
i was thinking if someday i got my own house, it's the time they have to stop
well, i guess it's something i have to deal with right now
hehee.. thanks qhwater ^^
@petiksmode (2983)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
my entire family and some friends (almost all!!!(lols)) know about my salary...what they dont know is my comission..it was agreed that they will have part of my salary but i have all my comission for myself to spend...fair enough for me becoz i am living independently and have my own expenses as well..
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
27 Jun 08
hi petiksmode
yeah the commission is something people don't know
but sometimes it's still difficult to get a proper commission
in order to achieve my target, some customers asked for a higher rate
and the trick is to cut your commission to increase the interest rate.. hiks
thanks for responding petiksmode ^^
