how many years gap should be there between two children
By knightrider
@knightrider (1083)
India
June 24, 2008 12:01pm CST
my kids have an age diffenrece of 2 years, but most people i know keep a gap of 7-10 years between the first and second child, what s the advantage in such a case, in my case, i thought the children will always have company
7 responses
@bottan (51)
• India
25 Jun 08
Generally now a days people planning their kids as per their wihes. If they wish to have more gap between childrens they are acting accordingly.The gap between kids are very short, it will affect the health of mother as pregnancy in shorter period is not good. It also affect the first kid because the second kid in the shorter period may affect the natural feeding. In my opinion,there is an average gap of six to seven years is not bad.
@sminut13 (1783)
• Singapore
25 Jun 08
like many, i too feel that 7-10 is quite a lot of gap. the generation would be different i feel. i too feel that gap around 2-4 years is alright. my children has an age gap of 5 years roughly or 4 and a half to be exact you could say. initially we just wanted it to be a year but then due to some work and holiday timing, decided to wait first.
so 5 years is just nice as my son understands a little more or less. and he doesn't really get that jealous although it's partly because we give him our attention as well.
it is true that children will have company when they have siblings. that is an advantage.
@zeusonfire (470)
• India
24 Jun 08
Reseach says that a gap of 4-years should be optimum. well u can have your own things in mind.
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
24 Jun 08
well, i think 7-10 years is to long, though my sister is 8 years older than me. 3-5 year gap will be good for children.
@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
24 Jun 08
I would say for optimum health of the mother and the ability of the siblings to bond would be about 3 years. Even three years makes a huge difference in the children's attitude toward each other. I think 2 years is probably best if the mother's body properly recovers from the first pregnancy. If not, the second child can really take a toll on her health.
7 to 10 years! Wow! That's a BIG difference. My 5th child is 12 years younger than my 4th one and it was like she was an only child in a house hold of adults. It was nice that I had 4 older children to help, but she grew up feeling a little left out because there's only a 5 year span between the 4 oldest ones and they all had stories to tell of the mischief they got into that she wasn't a part of it.
@startstop123 (435)
• India
24 Jun 08
The gap between the children is advised to be in between two to three years is good. it will be easier for the mother to raise the children and it also helps the people in good Mental stability and can avoid the problems of having superiority complexity towards each other.
@Keleidescope (204)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Wow. I think 7-10 years is a lot between children. I have 3 siblings and we're all about a year apart. I liked having siblings around the same age. We have the same interests and we don't feel left out of things. Even now, we're still close and I don't think that would be the case if we 7 years apart.