Was that my defeat or my win?
By parthajena
@parthajena (536)
India
June 25, 2008 11:57pm CST
Well, the girl i loved was already in love with someone else. But, owing to the wishes of her near kins she got committed to me. In the short span i was close to her, i realised she was unable to trust me. Also her living quite far didn't help sort things out.
Then i came to know she fancied someone else,but, she feared to upset her kins.
I decided to step out of whatever the relationship, if it ever existed, so that she wont face the trouble of doing it herself and upsetting her kins.
I thought it was the greatest loss of my life. She was quite a bubbling spirit i loved. But,then i also felt relieved that i actually helped someone.Its better to stop a relationship if it hurts and does remain mechanical only. Any advice from you?
And, what is it you think-my loss or my win?
3 responses
@praveenjena (1304)
• India
27 Jun 08
hi parthajena,
well life is indeed painful at times. ..... when things do no go the way we want them to proceed. as the life goes ahead we get these events in our life where we have acted in a way which is quite different from from what we hope. i think you have won here.
anyways have a good day.
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@parthajena (536)
• India
27 Jun 08
well, thanks for voting for me. thats really true that we think twice for what we ave done. but isn't it possible to take the ultimate decision that wont make us think again.
anyways, thanks for the response.
@parthajena (536)
• India
26 Jun 08
Your words are quite supportive rane. Even my friends have such views. But, there are times when i think if i should have acted differently. This keeps me from going into a new relationship.
Thanks for the response.
Have a good day.
@skygal (146)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 08
To me, what you did was right. You should let go of the relationship if your partner has feeling for someone else. No point being together if it hurts both of you. I think you won this because you did the right decision to stop all the sufferings in your life from this relationship and give a chance to yourself and your partner to move on with ones life. It must be hard to do so but you will sure get through it, just give it some time and tyr to concentrate on other things for now. As for advice, I don't have one because I got no experience in this, sorry.
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@parthajena (536)
• India
26 Jun 08
Hey, skygal, it sure was very hard for me. But maybe some amount of my self ego helped. Anyway, i have given enough time to it, i would say more than enough.About three years now. And i'm still unable to forget it. I haven't being seeing anyone else after the incident. Perhaps its my fear.But still.If i hadn't had good friends i would have suffered more, i think.
Anyways, thank you for the response.
Have a nice day.
