Questioning the religion......

Hi Misty Your husband should not be looking for a partner while still married to you and absolutely should not be lying. That is not very Islamic. I know, I am muslim. Have you tried talking to him about it? My husband also converted to Islam. We were not together when he did but his family were not happy at all and he was kicked out of his house, he was 19. It was difficult to face family. But you are his wife he should respect you enough to tell you about his choices and actions and work through them together. I'm sorry you have no one else to talk to. Talk to him.

my dear misty, this is truly complicated. what was he before converting? i just dont understand why you allow him to list on date sites. its a dealbreaker for a marriage. if he really want to be a muslim, he should read the quran and learn that islam doesnt give him special rights. especially if you want to submit to allah, you need to follow strict laws. isnt no adultry one of them? theres still hope for him. i shall pray for him. i am a Christian.

misty 99 why did he lie about being married, does he want to have his cake and eat it too, play with a single muslim girl,is this what you want? do report him to the sites administrator and do talk to him, about this posting to a single muslim web site andask why?I would think he had found his soulmate in you, else why is he your husband?

that's really bad...don't get me wrong but muslim her in our place are not that very ok in dealing with the people around them,and about the reason why they need to convert some they just want to enjoy life for being single and be loved by every girl around them,they just to play with feelings and especially with the word s*x...hahahaha...

I'm so sorry that you have to undergone this kind of pain. it's really terrible...I wish I can console you in some other way...but the only thing I can do now is pray for you...that you have more courage to face your pain. just don't lost hope ...okay?

Hi Misty, My name is Aisha. I am a Muslim convert of six years now. Im going to give you both sides, because I do not want to pick sides. Let me tell you first, I am sorry for your pain, and heart ache. I understand how much of a shock this must be for you. But believe me, it will pass. First of all, your husband probably feels that you are not with him, and he is alone in this religion. Yes it is possible that he converted for a second wife, but let me tell you, Allah, knows hies intentions, and if that is the case, he will not receive the blessings that Islam can bring. Islam is all about intention, and its not easy having more than one wife. I have some friends that are co-wives. If your husband is true in his heart, he should have spoken to you, about how he feels.Your husband is looking for a woman to help raise a Muslim family, someone he can relate to as far as religion. This is very difficult if your spouse is not of the same faith. You are fighting him against it, possibly in fear that he will try and force it on you. My suggestion is, if you love your husband, set aside your ego for a little while, and think if you come into something you knew in your heart was true, and he was against it, how would you feel. When it comes to God, he is first, before spouses, and he is willing to loose you. I suggest that you sit with him and tell him you are hurt, that you dont understand, and may not be ready to move as fast as he is. Ask him to tell you about Islam, you will find it to be beautiful. And as to those who try and paint an ugly picture about Islam and the Prophet , specifically his marriage to Aisha. Please do your research first, before you state false accusations. It really frustrates me when people are ignorant to history and theology and try and apply it to today. Yes today it is looked down on, in any culture. But we are in a different time. During the time when this country was founded, women were of age to be married at 6. Look it up , for yourself. The Prophet married Aisha when she was 7, and they consummated it, when she was 9. You have to learn for yourself, and not always take peoples word, just because they are trying to be on your side. The current age of consistent on some states is still 14 years. http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent Yet many think teen age pregnancy is glamorous, or no big deal. Thats the society we live in. Do you think these girls are married. No, and often times do not know who the father is. In the end its about you and your relationship. not the people hear online. Im sure you need support, and are looking for help. Lastly, Im going to tell you. What your husband is doing is not Islamic because he is lying and hiding it from you. It is permissible for him to have up to four wives, but he must do for them equally. If he buys one a car, he must buy for the other as well. Remind your husband he can not only practice the parts of the faith that fit to his liking, he must submit completely, with the intention of pleasing Allah( God) or his efforts are pointless. Simply asking him, is he trying to please Allah, is he handling things the way Prophet Muhammad would have. No. You can find out more about Islam on my website at aishaladon.com or email me any time. I will tell you like it is, and I promise not to take sides. Women need to know their rights and responsibilities in Islam, even if your are not Muslim, he is. After time, if you open your heart, to even coming to understand it to save your marriage, you will find how Islam can benefit you as well, especially if you are a Muslim women. We have rights in marriage that non-Muslim women only wish they had. And no, we do not live in a Muslim country, but in the end, Allah(God ) is the judge over mankind, and we will have to answer to him in the end, no matter where you live.

Hi Misty, If both of you are nice loving couples you should have talked about this subject as well. He might have identified Islam as a true path. I think you are a christian or a jew, it is ok to keep the existing wife while one embracing Islam, and she not necessarily to be a Muslim. You are still his wife as before and there should not be any bad effects towards you with this. If he joining other sites to find another girl I guess it may be something else than Islam, or he may be just using a profile only.