My 3 year old is out of control... HELP!

hi there don't worry too much about it, im in the same boat as yourself!! my 3 year old won't listen to a word i say but listens to her father. ive found that repeating myself and looking at her in a different manner works, also i don't buy her treats if she doesn't listen and then when i say jump, she jumps!

You are definitely not alone. I have a 2 1/2 yr old son and I notice a difference in him from day to day. On the days that I make it a point to spend time just with him, he is not so bad, but if I don't a least get that 30-60 mins of time with him then he is a monster...lol. I've also just tried different tactics to have him help with the things I must do in a day. For example yesterday he helped me feed his 9 month old sister and he thought that was the coolest thing. Since I've started doing these things he's gotten a lot better. However, he does have times that he tests me to see how far he can go. For these moments I've used a technique that I learned on the TV show Super Nanny. I created a naughty seat...after a few times of sitting in that naughty seat for 2 mins (they sit for the amount of minutes as their age) he avoids having to do that. Now I will warn you the first few times you put him in the naughty seat he will test you and constantly get up, you just keep putting him back in the seat until he stays. The first time I did it, it took almost 40 mins for him to stay there, but I've been rewarded for that work, cuz now all I have to do is say "do you want to sit in the naughty seat?" and he does whatever it is that I'm telling him to do or not to do. My advise is to maybe check out www.supernanny.com just check out the advise they have and techniques they provide, it will help you out. All you have to do is put the time and effort into it. It is a very informative site and has really helped me out a lot. There is also a TV show to watch or you can watch clips on the website. Good luck to you and as my mother keeps telling me, it does get better....especially with boys....lol :)

I have the same problem. My son is 4 and listens to his dad and is very well-behaved when I'm not around, but doesn't really listen to me most of the time. You just need to buckle down and not give into him when he doesn't get what he wants. When he doesn't listen, discipline him. You should see a change after that.

u know i just want to ask this question... How often do you spend time with ur son? coz the way i look it, your son is probably just want to get your attention. or may be your son doesn't look at you as someone in authority. there may be factors that may affect your child behavior. anyway, it's actually normal for that age to be very handful. child psychologists say that the most difficult age bracket to handle are 2-3 year old toddlers. i also have a 2 and a half year old daughter and i tell you, you're not the only one who feels the way you're feeling right now. and i was asking why my daughter is behaving that way. and when i started to examine things, i soon realize that it's because im really not spending enough time with her coz i am consumed with my work. i actually work in a call center. you may try talk to your son as if he's an adult. and sometimes act like someone as his age. play with him. be keen to what his interests are. and use those to interact with your kids. if he enjoys watching a certain tv show, watch with him. You play with him like you are his playment and a friend. i hope i helped...