Hard being a miltary wife.....

I know exactly how you feel. My husband is in the Army here in England and it sounds like life is very similar to where you are. He is based in a small place in the middle of nowhere and there weren't many job opportunities for me. I was getting a bus at 7am to start work at 8am on an industrial estate, then finishing at 4:30pm and getting home at 5:30pm then making the tea for us - and my husband wondered why I was always tired! I stuck it out for nearly five years and then I told him I had to leave. Thankfully he completely understood and now I live in my home town up north. He is still based down south but comes up most weekends and he plans to get out in a few years so I know I just have to be patient. It is a hard life and outsiders don't always understand. It can sometimes be a thankless job, but you have to remember you get that whereever you go. The only thing to do really is ride it out and make the best of what you have. I am lucky in that I don't have children and my husband and I love each so much we know we can make our situation work until we can live together again. I hope things get better for you soon and remember - life is what you make it! :)

That does sound bad. Although part of it is the same in the outside world. The higher ups never appreciate if you work your tail off. Anyhow, have you connected with the other military wives on base? There may be a way to share experiences, get some tips, arrange for babysitting, stuff like that. The military appears to be weird in a way that one hand often doesn't know what the other one is doing, lol. Administrativewise, you get nothing in term of assistance unless you figure out yourself what applies to you and what is available. They don't exactly come knocking. And it is a lot of red tape to wade through to get it. But I'm sure that somebody on base knows how to get help for your family, some financial assistance etc. You just have to investigate and ask the right questions. Good luck!

Thats is one reason that dougy and i wont live in military housing... Its suck i feel for you i really do.

Hi fainette, I too am a military wife. I can understand what you mean about living in areas that are rinky dink. our first station was so small that you could drive from one end of town to the other in a matter of 30 minutes (no joke). I think that it depends on the branch of military that our husbands are in. My husband is Air Force and I have to say that the Air Force takes really good care of their families. I've heard horror stories about the Navy wives and my heart goes out to them and what their hubbies have to go through. Regardless of the branch I do agree with you that their pay should be higher than it is. Although our cost of living allowance increases/decreases depending on the area, sometimes even that isn't always enough. I went from a corporate wife to a small town stay at home mom. Before our first assignment I worked in a large city and had a corporate position. Well moving to a small town didn't give me the opportunity to transition into the same type of job/position that I had worked so hard to get into. It took a lot of patience on my part and support from my husband to realize that what I did didn't determine who I was or who I am. Please don't think I am in any way trying to minimize what your struggling with. I think every military wife goes through stuff that only other military wives can relate too. Although our husbands serve our country we serve too because we're married to the military. Keep your chin up and remember you are a strong and courageous woman. Hugs and God bless