Do you think a bad husband will make a bad father?

Well I have seen bad husbands who are good to their children, takes well of them and good provider but I cannot call them good fathers in the real sense of the word because to me a real good father is one who could give his children not just the love and care and financial support but more importantly a father who serves as good example and could give them the comfort and security of a happy home. If he is not a good husband, how could he expect his children to be happy seeing their beloved mother crying and unhappy? How could he teach his children good values, if he himself does not have those?

People were not born bad, we are getting bad due to our environment and people whom we grow up. Same thing with a husband, we are getting bad due to some reasons, but not necessary means that we already a bad father for our kids.

Depends what your idea of a bad husband is. If a bad husband is someone who sleeps around once they divorce is over and the man has custody or share custody of the child they may turn out to be a good dad who cannot keep it in his pants.

Sure it happened in this reasons my friend, Most of the life partners don't care of other partners and they don't give respect and share any kind of things so if he is not a good husband and he will not be a good father, if the children these incidents they don't forgive him.

well considering a lot of wives think their husbands are awful and they break up because they dont love eachother anymore doesnt mean that they wont be good to the kids.. that would be like some one crashing a car but they were good at driving it.

I'm thinking that anyone has the power to change if they want to. It may be a child or it may be the day they say it is. It really boils down to the person. If someone has a child in hopes of changing someone..I would say it's a bad idea..but it's not impossible it will happen.

I honestly think it depends on WHY that person is a bad husband..AND I have to wonder why any woman would be willing to take the chance in the first place ya know.... On a basic level I'd have to say that SOMETIMES a baby can improve a person BUT SOMETIMES it can actually make them worse in all honesty....Either way, I wouldnt want to take the chance..

I think that babies can change people because babies make us all the more love the family and take better care of the family, therefore it cannot be an exception for a bad husband, who can also be a good father instead and gradually becomes good to his wife.

Hi gitfiddleplayer. Honestly, I’m not sure. As far as I know, sometimes a jerk will change into a better person after he becomes a father and loves his child(ren) as he wants the best for them, but some others don’t change even a bit. So there must have been some ‘wake up call’ that makes them change, and either it is a baby, a lovely wife, or the life itself. I have ever met some women whose bad husbands later changed many years after their children grew up and something hit the bad fathers in their relationship with their own children, and these things brought them into either ‘bottom rock experience’ or anything that made them become shameful on themselves and then they changed eventually to fix themselves.

Well I think people who treat people badly generally treat most people badly and that means their children too. If a man treats his wife badly more than likely he will treat his children badly too, because by nature they are jerks. There are of course exceptions to the rules. I do know a man who often treated his girl friends badly, but loves and is great with children. So I would say for the most part yes, but there can be exceptions.

I think just because a guy is a bad husband,does not mean he will be a bad father,because I believe there is something about having a baby,and seeing it that will change a guy for the better,and make him realize he is being stupid,so he will change,even though sometimes a bad husband is a bad father because they do not care enough about their child,or their wife,or even their self to even try.

no its not necessary that a bad husband always make a bad father also. he may turn different to his wife due to various reasons but for children he may remain a good and caring father. but a jerk remains a jerk in all form of relation . as son, brother, husband, father, whatever may be the relationship. it doesn't matter

I don't believe that people can change. They can only become worse or get back to the better condition from the earlier. It doesn't mean they will become a good persons. It's something like 1:10.000 chance. If someone didn't reflected about himself after marriage he won't reflect after having a baby. Jerk is always a jerk. Cheers and happy myloting.

A bad people always a bad people.They never change.I have found many people like this....

Trust me on this. A bad person is not made better by marriage or fatherhood. A bad person gets worse. A jerk is not necessarily always a jerk, but no woman is going to change a bad man into a good one. A bad husband is very likely to be a very bad father. People with bad husbands should not have babies.

I dun think so.. Because wife and children are different.. Though both of them deserved attention from u, as husband or father.. But it's all about priorites and importance of each individual in your heart.. MAybe it's the loving and caring method that dun suits either one, but the good intention is always there, just that one mis-intrepret it wrongly and causes the bad father, bad husband image..

I think things can change people. Maybe having kids together with a bad husband would change him BUT I wouldn't want to take the risk that it wouldn't and that things would break down and the children would be hurt as well. Sometimes its more that someone has to do a bit of growing up before they are a good husband or father and it happens.

They may be a bad husband but be a great dad but, if you had a baby to someboy who was a bad husband then really how could you enjoy being together as a family? There wouldn't be complete happiness due to husband treating you bad and then you end up staying together becuase of the kids or splitting which isn't nice then on the children either!! So I would say yea a bad husband could be a good dad but the two together as in being good at both would be wiser! x

I don't know about others here but this is kinda true for me. My eldest's biological dad was bad to me when we were together. So bad that it got me thinking that I don't want his son to grow up with him or us still together. he doesn't have respect not just for me but to all the women who came and went in his life. He is even bad to his mom and sisters. So, after experiencing the toughest time with him, I packed my bags. I hoped for the better for my son. I thought that things will change when he was born. But, honestly, it didn't surprise me. I knew all along. Up until now, my son will be turning 9 years old this August, he has not performed as a dutiful and responsible father. When he's in the country, he's going to visit when he wants to. He doesn't send money regularly. It's not just the money..When they're together, he just let my son play with his other kids and leave them to play. He doesn't interact. He doesn't call to check if his kid is still breathing! He's not that concerned that his kid has physical problems. I can say that he's also like that with his other kids with other women, because we compare notes..i pity all his kids because they have an irresponsible dad. i hope and pray that there is no one like him.

I definitely don't think so. My ex husband was not a very good husband but he is an awesome father to our children. He lives close by, tries to be as involved as possible, comes to see them when he can (has 2 jobs). We talk almost everyday, a whole lot more then when we were married. I guess it depends on the person.