kids
By syanika
@syanika (60)
Australia
June 27, 2008 3:41am CST
ok i have a problem. Well i should start with the fact i have 3 kids and i love them to death. Now the problem is that my son is a great kid and loves his mum and dad(step dad). Now he is always a good kid at school and has just started to missbehave at school. He is stealing stuff out of other kids bags. I have spoken to the school and they made him eat at the office and he wasn't allowed to play with any other kids. I also punished him for his behavior. Now the school decided to bring in the school councilor. In doing this my son told him that he wants to see his real dad that is why he is playing up. Now my ex has not seen my son in 3 years and he still says he loves him and wants to spend time with him. So the councilor told him to wright a letter to his father(biological) and let him kow how he feels. In doing this the councilor rang me and told me of his plans, but as i told him i don't know his fathers address and the councilor advised me just to throw it away as this is just so my son can express his feelings. Now my problem is what if my son finds out later on i didn't send them and threw them in the bin. Do u think i should put them away or throw them in the bin. Can i have some feedback on this as i really don't know what to do.
Thanks for the input
2 responses
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
27 Jun 08
It sounds like you still have some kind of contact with your son's dad, right If you do I would try to get some kind of address for him, Try going through his family. But I certainly would not throw the letters away. Put them away.If you can't locate your son's father Then I would tell your son the truth but let him know that you are trying and will keep the letters until you do.
@syanika (60)
• Australia
27 Jun 08
Ok this is the problem the family will not let me know his address as he has made it clear he dosn't want me to have it. The last time he contacted me was threw a solicitor. Thanks for yor response now i know i was right in keeping them so he can have them later on. I also did tell my son i didn't know his address and his responce was the teacher told me i had to do it.
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@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
27 Jun 08
If I were in your shoes, I would try to find the address of your ex. It's really important for your son to find closure for his grieve. If you really don't have a way in finding his new address (through family or relatives or friends) you can keep this letter somewhere, so you can return it to him with the explanation that you could no where find the address of his father, but that you kept the letter in case you would.
