Meeting Somone Online

I met my wife, and previous fiance (through a friend) online. I had previously met and dated several women through dating websites as well as on social websites similar to Mylot and Myspace. the trick of course, like others have already said, is to be safe about it all. I met my wife first at a free dating site called okcupid, she invited me to myspace where we got to know each other a little better, and we got to meet some, each others friends. we then progressed to chatting on yahoo instant messenger, and eventually traded email address, and finally phone #'s and started talking on the phone, and talked again with each others friends a little, before finally meeting in a very public place (the first time). when meeting someone that's a total stranger that you have no mutual friends with, it's always best to have "silent chaperons" (friends "planted" at the meeting place to watch and keep things safe). at the very least have a "safe call" or 2 setup. get the perspective dates home address, phone #, car description and license plate number, and give it to your safe call person. also give them the location you'll be meeting at, and approximately how long you'll be there, and setup specific safe call times, with safe/trouble code words you can use, to let your safe call person know if you are safe or in trouble without making your visit uncomfortable. as far as "when is a good time to meet face to face?" only you two can decide when the time is right. one note of caution though. do not bend or yield to someone that is not patient, and tries to force, coddle, or pressure you into giving out personal identifiable inforamtion before you are willing or comfortable.

Well, unfortunately, I was not able to experience dating online because when this internet dating becomes popular in my country, I am already married. lol... But I have so many friends who are dating online. They chatted for many months, some like a year before they decided to meet. I have so many friends who got married through internet dating. Well, it is fun!! they said.. I wish I was able to experience that.. hahaha.. Well, happy week end..

I would rather not get involved with someone I never met. It may work out, who knows, but I'd rather not take that chance. About how long to wait before you meet, if you really want to online date, I don't think it would matter. That's just my opinion.

I have experienced many online relationships. Some have ended in total heartbreak, in unbelievable situations that no one should be forced to endure. Some, such as my wonderful husband, have ended in a beautiful, loving, supportive relationship. We talked on the phone and online for almost a year before agreeing to meet. By that time, I had spoken to his parents, his 7 siblings and a myriad of his workmates and friends. However, I still met him in a public atmosphere with plenty of exits and people around just to be safe. Past online meetings have taught me that you never really get to know a person well, until you have spent time with them face to face. And then at times, you still do not know them. Trust yourself and your own instincts. Protect yourself by meeting in a very public place, preferably with a friend nearby. If your gut is screaming that something isn't right, but you can't name what it is, get out of there.